feeling crazy again
the time since mom died has had its ups and downs. I haven't been able to face "my story" or any of that... not even enough to go take it out and throw it away.
Anyway this summer a couple things going on... want your feedback on this scenario.
Last summer my sister graciously had me and my husband accompany them on vacation. They had a beach rental for a week at a lovely posh location (would have been 3 months take home for me) and there was plenty of space, many many amenities -- We all had a grand time. We availed ourselves to being as helpful as possible with childen, laundry and cooking and provided groceries etc. Grand! And the kids had a good time too. I think. Not the family hostage situation of my youth by any means. And I was so touched and so grateful that they treated us so -- seemed genuinely pleased we were all together.
Afterwards, last fall, we planned this year's vacation. We were going to share a two bedroom in a different location. Kids would do couch fold out. We planned leave and cash and I began stashing the supplies etc. Four weeks prior, we were told that sister's husband had asked his mother to come. As she needed her own room, this relegated us to the fold out for 7 days and chldren to an air mattress in her room. We offered to get lodgings nearby or bow out as needed. But nothing would do but for us to go along...
Does this mean anything? Was there a message in this abrupt change of plans?
We stayed for two nights -- had to wait in line to bathe, or restroom. The restroom we could visit easily had no lock. Laundry was going to be out of the question as the machine broke the first night. (Happily we had never touched it yet.) We were not paying guests on either trip but provided for our own admissions etc and brought food for all on both trips and supplies of all sorts -- to help out and to make packing a little easier for them since they had to pack for the kids. Last year, I did not feel like a "crumbsnatcher" but this year I did. I'm trying not to be devastated.
Love, Biddy