Detachment

[Lupita]

Just wanted to add to not to be discouraged if cannot detach perfectly. Just hurting less and less is good anough. Just being better today than yesterday, just a little bit. That is good anough at least for me. I am going very slowly but still going and that is good ebough for me.

Love to you all.

[Leah]

Just wanted to add to not to be discouraged if cannot detach perfectly. Just hurting less and less is good anough. Just being better today than yesterday, just a little bit. That is good anough at least for me. I am going very slowly but still going and that is good ebough for me.

Love to you all.

((((( Lupita ))))))

Love to you too - thank you for this encouragement.

Leah

[Lupita]

Thank you Lea, Love you.

[seasons]

Just wanted to add to not to be discouraged if cannot detach perfectly. Just hurting less and less is good anough. Just being better today than yesterday, just a little bit. That is good anough at least for me. I am going very slowly but still going and that is good ebough for me.

Love to you all.

Thank you for reminding me that being better today than yesterday, even a little bit is good.

This thread is a work of hope. Thank you so much ((Lupita))

[lighter]

"By George I think she's got it!"


Accepting powerlessness. 

::nodding::


One more important piece of the puzzle (we've discussed detachment here so much) but....

you've just layed it all out, haven't you?

Thanks,

Lighter

[Lupita]

Thank you Lighter. Working on this thread helped me a lot. I need to start one on let go the need to be right. I need that so much. Let go the need to be ricognized. Let go the need of wanting more.
Sotp being offended, let go the sense of self importance. Let us do an ego-ectomy. NO ego, no problems.

[Leah]

Let us do an ego-ectomy

(((( Lupita )))) you are truly lovely!

Love to you,

Leah

[Lupita]

I needed to read about this and could not fins it.

I need to shrink M to its minimum exponent. and I do notknow how to look at him and not to feel anything.

It is hard.

I better do not even tell you trhe last things he has done because youa re going to get mad at me not at him.

[sKePTiKal]

Lupita:

You can say or tell anything you want.

Don't worry about whether anyone gets "mad at you" - 99.99% of the time if any of us gets angry, we're just getting "mad FOR you" because we CARE about YOU. It may not be the healthiest reaction on our parts... but truly, caring about you is the reason for the emotion you're worried about. And you might be surprised! We might feel other kinds of things instead... but you really don't need to concern yourself about how we feel; that's our job and it doesn't change the fact that we care about you.

[Lupita]

I cannot believe I said these things years before. Some are very good stuff. I think, this year with M kind of made me go backwards a little but at the same time gave me a lot of understanding.
I hope I can detach and see him as the idiot he is and not to feel anything when I see him.

I will not feel anything when I see him. I tell my self that every day.
I visualize my self seeing him dancing very close with other women and visualize my self not feeling anything. Hope it happens.

[Lupita]

Recently, for the first time, I could enjoy my dancing with out thinking what M was doing or who he was danicng with. For the first time I could dance and enjoy the other gentlemen without fearing that M would be touching and flirting with another woman. These articles in this thread are very powerful.

Hope that you read them too.

[Lupita]

Well, I am trying to detach from M but it is very difficult. Reading this thread is my meditation. This thread has helped me a lot. Hope that it helps somebody else too.

So, I tell my self, he is not good for me. He is hard on me. He constantly hurts me. He does the things that I tell him I do not like, and he does it in purpose. Why do I want to be with somebody who hurst me? I do not understand my self but I am trying to logically detach from him.

I will not go tonight, intentionally to the place where he dances salsa knowing that I love to dance salsa, just not to see him. That is something I do rationally, but my heart is dying to go there and dance with him.