this is great. thanks for posting it!
wish he would elaborate on when those judgements are incorrect or off target based on the irrational mind seeing an action or behavior that triggers us to respond in fight or flight mode not from this particular action, but in response to a previous similar action in a previous relationship. its sort of like when a boyfriend makes a racist remark at a party and then i go into defense from the last boyfriend who made a racist remark in my last relationship. one was truly a racist, the other just joking, but thats not always how we/i respond. or, we are so hurt by a previous action, that hurt comes up and we cant be/think rationally about that action when it comes again.
and, it would be helpful to make a comment about judgements that tell us the relationship is wrong for us... when again, it might a fight/flight response from long ago, not relevant to the present. Then it becomes our own self fulfilling prophecy, because we respond as we did previously, getting us the same results, hence the definition of "insanity".
