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Surrounded
Overcomer:
I want to lash out. I wanted to yell and scream at my sister in law. I want to get a lawyer and try to stop the mooching. I am taking the upper hand on my ex. No, I won't call it good!! He wanted me to tell a judge we were square then he promises he'll pay me for the rest of my life! Ha. He's betting I won't live long!!!!
Then the stress got to husband and he has been drunk the last 3 days!! Hate that !!
Plus I am so tired. No motivation AT ALL.
Tiring!!
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Overcomer on September 18, 2011, 03:11:45 PM ---I want to lash out. I wanted to yell and scream at my sister in law. I want to get a lawyer and try to stop the mooching. I am taking the upper hand on my ex. No, I won't call it good!! He wanted me to tell a judge we were square then he promises he'll pay me for the rest of my life! Ha. He's betting I won't live long!!!!
Then the stress got to husband and he has been drunk the last 3 days!! Hate that !!
Plus I am so tired. No motivation AT ALL.
Tiring!!
--- End quote ---
ACCCKKKK!!!!! :P
sKePTiKal:
Hm. Wonder what the judge would say, if you "let slip" the under the table settlement you were offered by the ex?
I can't imagine that would sit too well.
Overcomer:
Can you divorce family members? I want to say, "you and I are no longer family.". I am forever done with you.
SilverLining:
--- Quote from: Overcomer on September 20, 2011, 02:13:49 PM ---Can you divorce family members? I want to say, "you and I are no longer family.". I am forever done with you.
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Hi OC. If only I had a nickel for every time I've had that or similar thoughts, there'd be enough money to move to a desert island and actually go through with the divorce :)
I know the surrounded feeling very well. I seem to attract nutjobs everywhere I go . A couple of ideas I've come up with. First, the conditioning from the dysfunctional FOO makes us very accustomed to putting up with crap from other people, and the Nish types quickly pick up on this. The FOO process implanted feelings of guilt if we don't put up with the crap, which makes us feel overly responsible for the well being of others. And because we put up with so much of it, we are sensitized to the stuff. I have physical "gut feelings" when I am dealing with Narcissistic people. But then I feel bad about setting boundaries and keeping them at a distance. I have a hard time even putting down the phone when they are droning on with their self absorbed nonsense.
Consciousness of the processes has made an improvement. I keep reminding myself I'm not in any way responsible for their well being. And I don't need to put up with their stuff.
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