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the aftermath of no contact
fraidycat:
Hi, I haven't been here in a while its nice to be back. I am struggling right now, after years of no contact with my abusive biological family members I am having a strong urge to confront them and let them know just how much their twisted lies, slander, games and abandonment has affected me (or just tell them off!) & I really don't know why! I know it won't help them understand or change and there is no way I would let them back in my life but I think it would be a relief to get it off my chest. Any advice or experiences with this?
SilverLining:
Hi FC. I have the urge to tell off the FOO every so often. I try to just let the feeling pass without getting too stuck on it. I don't believe it would do any good to play it out in the "real world". Conflict is another way of getting caught up in the situation and staying attached. Indifference to the whole thing is my goal.
It's a challenge, but I believe with practice these ghost urges from the past gradually lose their power.
Writing these things out on paper also seems to be a help. That seems to make it more "real" without the complications of getting into a messy conflict with abusive others.
BonesMS:
Writing it out on paper would be better than contacting these Narcissistic Whack-jobs! No matter what could be said, they would NEVER hear any of it as they live in their own sick and twisted little world!
Guest:
Ditto SL and Bones!
lighter:
You could start an UNSENT LETTER thread, Fraidy.
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