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addicts don't go NC why do we?
Guest:
TT, for you: http://www.measuringworth.com/uscompare/
I contacted someone who borrowed money from me in 1980, when I was poor and he sounded desperate. It would be worth around $95 today. I wrote to him twice, he said he vaguely remembered the loan. I read on his profile that he works in rehab for young offenders, is married with kids. If i wanted to, I could easily locate him and turn up on his doorstep. He hasn't offered me my money back. People are often simply crap. He is one of those.
TT, if he said to me: "the Lord has brought it to my attention that I said/did (name it) and that I have offended you. I am very sorry for what I said/did that hurt you. He has forgiven me. It would mean the world to me if you could find it in your heart to forgive me too. Would you forgive me?" I'd say: "first, where's the money?".
Hops, yes I do! I'm still (occasionally) dealing with the new set of demons (well, small imps really), and talking to my inner revenger about how self-defeating all her silly 'showdown' ideas are. I've waged a lot of wars in my head, which is where they are safest. Ooooo I like that! "Wars are best waged in heads." copyright that now (no results in the big G). :mrgreen:
I like all practices that are geared towards understanding.
sKePTiKal:
--- Quote ---"Wars are best waged in heads."
--- End quote ---
Caveat: not when the war is between your "self" and your SELF. Otherwise, anything first published in public media (does a restricted membership disc board count?) is already protected by copyright, if you have enough money for the lawyers.
Guest:
Agree with your caveat PR. 8) Internal wars like that require external assistance.
I think Richard has the copyright, so Richard, you are most welcome to that, FWIW (not much!).
Guest:
Me neither TT. But then I know how I feel if someone tells me that I've hurt them in some way. It doesn't happen much these days. I don't meet enough (or upset enough) people!! Ha. I must be doing something wrong.
--- Quote ---I almost always second guess myself on things I say here and otherwise for fear I said it wrong, unclear, - all sorts of things.
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I'm not biting. Nope. Not either side of that apple.
How many people have asked you for forgiveness? There's a starter.
Guest:
Oh watch your thoughts because your thoughts become your actions?
Well, I guess that applies to some people. I understand that.
I don't think planning revenge is a waste of time! It can be a very productive use of time. So long as it stays at the planning stage, in one's head, and doesn't translate to action. Of course, that depends on what the trangression is. Action may be required, but get rid of revenge before acting. Act out of the need for action (as anyone sees 'need') as opposed to emotion. Blah blah!
I guess thoughts are never wasted.
These days if anyone should ask for my forgiveness (and I don't know why anyone would, nutters aside), I'd wonder why they wanted it, and how long they had wanted it, ...etc.
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