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Lupita, how are you?

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lighter:
Hey Lup:

Tell us about the new man.

What are the nice behaviors and things he does that stand out?

How does it make you feel?

I suppose it's not much in your comfort zone to have someone be kind, but you just might have to get over that: )

Lighter

Lupita:
He took me to a chines restaurant, he paid, the fortune cookie said: "unexpected relationship will become permanent". He said then, keep this paper. Save it. He has not said anything ugly or done anything to make me feel bad. He is very considerate. He does not want to tango. Nice opportunity to get out of tango and have good company. I feel very relaxed with him. He says he has a masters degree in education and he behaves very respectful. I have not been in his house yet. I will know more about him when I am at his house.

lighter:
Lupita:

It sounds like he's a gentleman, and you enjoy being treated well.

Just try to stay relaxed, know you're moving slowly, don't dismiss the red flags, and don't blow the little quirks out of proportion.

Maybe it would be a good idea to journal, so you can re visit your thoughts about him later on.

Boundaries up!  Fun-field down: )

Lighter

Lupita:
Well, I went to his house and found out he is married. But, he is a very nice person. He just never said he was married after 11 days of friendship. Now, I do not want anything to do with him, but strict friendship, and distant friendship. He is still a very nice person and I do not blame him for wanting to have something to do with me, even though he had to lie about it. That means I am growing up and I do not feel like a victim. Yipy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had a lot of fun with this man who plays acordion and we played tangos together, piano and accordion, and he dances too and he speaks several languages like I do. I am sorry he is married but I trust in the Lord that somebody will appear for me some day.

Do the best you can with what you have from where you are and your ship will find you.

The universe is powerful; and I feel very content.

lighter:
I'm sorry he can't be a comfortable friend, Lupe, but it does sound like you're experiencing growth.

My favorite prayer is to ask the Lord to help me help myself, and to help me see the truth more clearly.  What do you pray for? 

If you remember to find pleasure in your daily abolutions...... creating sacred space in your home............ caring for yourself....... continuing to do things that bring you pleasure......

you will meet new people, and be in a good place to make decisions about them.

Coming from a position of want, not need.

Understanding what a boundary is, having them in place, and defending them appropriately.....
consitently, means you'll continue growing.

It means you'll be able to stop learning the same lessons over and over, and move on to new ones.

Life is a learning jouney.  We never stop growing (((Lupita.)))

Lighter

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