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All those conversations in my head
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: PhoenixRising on November 13, 2011, 09:18:24 AM ---Bones, hon... if it triggers you and you don't like being triggered... tune it out, don't pay attention to it, make a boundary. It's not 100% foolproof, but it really, really helps.
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Easier said than done......
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on November 13, 2011, 10:03:34 AM ---I have heard that many, many childhood sexual abuse victims have been severely triggered and upset by what happened in State College...you're not alone, Bones.
This might be a good time to step up some visits to a survivors' support group.
You deserve to not have to process those feelings alone.
(What your mother did is unspeakable.)
love to you,
Hops
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Thanks, Hops.
There used to be a survivors' support group in my area. Unfortunately, it fell apart when a predator was able to infiltrate the group and started up his crap. I haven't been able to locate another group in my area since.
Bones
sKePTiKal:
Yeah Bones, I know it can be hard to tune it out. Last night, I heard more than I wanted to know, too.
With a boundary, though... I can at least say to myself: what is being talked about is AWFUL, and I feel so sorry for the ones who were hurt by this, I sure know some of what they're going/have gone through. But it's not happening to me... I'm not part of this particular story. And that helps me from going down the road of reliving/refeeling my own story from so long ago. So, at least I can protect myself from my own past demons... they seem to come alive when I turn my attention to them; so I try not to... and they recede into the fog of the past a little more.
BonesMS:
I will state, UNEQUIVOCALLY, that ALL NMONSTERS !@#$ who RAPE THEIR OWN CHILDREN DESERVE A SPECIAL PLACE IN HELL!!!!!! :twisted:
I cannot, with a clear conscience, take the attitude of "Not my problem, their problem" when INNOCENT children are STILL being victimized by those who SHOULD BE PROTECTING THEM!!!!!!!!!!! :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Bones
sKePTiKal:
I agree with you, Bones. I wasn't saying "c'est la vie"... it's their problem, I don't care.
I was only saying, that it doesn't do me (nor my blood pressure) any good, to allow it to affect me as if it were actually happening to me. I still care - as passionately as you do - about these wrongs done to children. And for myself, to focus on this... absolutely harms me... it effectively continues the abuse that I experienced.
After all, I am one those of kids too.
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