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All those conversations in my head
Redhead Erin:
How wonderful that you were able to get help. Sucks that it had to be so hard-won, though. Did your teeth come out all right in the end?
sKePTiKal:
Yes, Erin... I'd like a spot to ask all those impossible questions too! Girly things... mostly. Things that were forbidden or put down as floozie-stuff and things I didn't "have time" for if I was to get my work done and study to be "smart". Fun things too - the fun things just never even made it onto any of those draconian to-do lists.
Mopping has evolved a lot in the past 10 years. I like the new steam mops which actually sanitize, for regular maintenance. They're fast and the cloth is washable for next time. Just vacumn thoroughly, first. Don't try that on wood floors, tho! The steam will raise the grain in the wood and could very well ruin the sealer, too. There are products/methods compatible with wood.
If the floor still looks grungy, there are specific cleaners for tile, linoleum or vinyl, etc. You'll need a regular sponge mop, a hand scrub brush, paper towels, bucket & lots of water. Pick a nice day when you get some fresh air to help the floor dry. I actually get down on hands & knees and scrub with the brush & cleaner until my back/knees hurt - rinse with the mop - and repeat if it still needs it before moving on to the next spot. I also have a brush on a longer pole - but I usually end up on my knees anyway for the worst spots. You're only going to scrub as much floor as you can reach at one time - about 2x4 or 3x6 or 8 ft. Rinse. Then I go over it with the steam mop, for good measure!!
[Aside: I have been told I see dirt that other people don't see or that I'm just slightly - ahem! - anal about cleaning. My Nmom is a hoarder and has lived in such filth that I couldn't use the bathroom. You may want to adjust my method to your level of energy! ;) ]
After that kind of cleaning, you can get by and do a presentable job with the steam mop, every week or two which will only take a short amount of time. Depending on how much traffic and what kind of dirt gets tracked in... you shouldn't have to do the "thorough" cleaning more often than annually or every two years.
Hopalong:
Erin, this is the GOOD side of the Internet, imo...
when we have practical life questions, there's always a How-to, and even video...
no substitute for a proper mother but sometimes the info is even better.
http://housekeeping.about.com/od/surfacefloors/ht/howtomop.htm
PR, wanna come work out that energy? Always happy to be a guinea house...
Hops
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Redhead Erin on November 11, 2011, 11:51:21 AM ---How wonderful that you were able to get help. Sucks that it had to be so hard-won, though. Did your teeth come out all right in the end?
--- End quote ---
Thanks, Erin. The dentist and orthodontist were able to fix some things. The one thing they couldn't fix was my palate because it had been neglected too long. (They told me it should have been treated while I was still a baby/toddler.) I got the sense that they were frustrated at her neglect.
I still struggle with PTSD.
Bones
sKePTiKal:
Hops, I've long thought that I should clean beach houses... you have to be fast, thorough and "have a plan of attack" for each one. And you get to do each house, every weekend or two! LOL... but some of the stuff I've seen, even as a tourist myself, makes me cringe and lose my faith in humanity. :: shaking head in puzzlement - what's WRONG with those people??? :: My body couldn't take climbing all the flights of stairs - with equipment in tow - now, tho.
Bones, I get the PTSD part! Horrid, ain't it? I still have my moments, too. But after while, don't you think you experience more relief about surviving and getting free of all that... even if we can't say "unscathed"... than there is constant rumination of the old list of parental offenses? And being constantly immersed in the stuff that can't be changed now? If there was a balance scale... which do you experience more of - a free-er now or an immersed in the past consciousness throughout your day?
Note to Erin: there are phases in healing when it seems one does stay immersed in all those old memories 24/7 - and it's one way that our less conscious SELF processes out the he said/she said and all the emotions, too. There is a big chunk of peace on the other side of those phases that accumulates and grows. No one likes being in it - and it can go on too long. I had to be told it was OK for me to take breaks - time-outs - from it; I didn't "know" that people could do that, either!!!
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