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nolongeraslave:
Do any of your N moms say this?

Just curious.

sKePTiKal:
The L word? Are you kidding? I've maybe only heard that once or twice in my life!! (now, 55).

According to her, I'm just supposed to "know" she loves me... which of course, is ONLY expressed by her dumping all her negative delusional perceptions out on me... which of course, I'm supposed to validate for her - even though I don't see it the same way she does. Her validate my feelings?? Understand me and my life?? Fergeddaboutit.

Hell, she doesn't even remember my birthday - and the last couple times I visited - she didn't recognize me, either.

What's bugging you about this, NLS?

BonesMS:

--- Quote from: nolongeraslave on November 20, 2011, 12:22:53 AM ---Do any of your N moms say this?

Just curious.

--- End quote ---

Unfortunately......no.

Bones

Guest:
Can't remember, NLAS. She could have done, it's one of those hugely manipulative pieces of BS. Long time ago she did say that because she was my mother, if I was in danger she would save me (by finding the strength to lift a boulder off me, for example), because that's what mothers do. I think she'd been reading about or watching stories about mothers' incredible feats of strength saving their kids, so I guess she thought, oh yes, that's me, I'm a good mother, and of course, then had to tell me so.

HAHA. As if the putting something into words sorts it out, all done, as if the words are equivalent to the action! I think they work like that. If they say it, it's as good as done. Except of course when you watch their actions, they don't do anything of the sort. Me and you, we're straight under that bus as soon as one comes along!

Anyone who says your title sentence is being manipulative. When people say that, start running. You don't want to hear it.


Does yours repeatedly call you 'darling', 'sweetie', or another word instead of your name? I think they do that when they've realised they easily forget who they're talking to, especially if they don't recognise you! :roll:

nolongeraslave:
It bugs me, because other people will perceive her as a very loving mom.  If I tell someone what she's done, they will say "But she says she loves you so much."  My mom does brag about me to others at work and presents herself as being very attached.  

 My pedophile step-dad also says he loves me very much. I get all of these sappy and sweet cards for my birthday.

I do think abusive parents love their kids and will say that they love them. In their sick heads, the abuse is a form of love or they are in such denial of what they're doing.

I also find it questionable when a parent feels the need to brag about how much they love a child.  When you love someone, you just do it. Why go out of your way to brag about it?

Freshwater-Yes, my mom does have a number of nicknames for me. It's so weird how she morphs into this loving mom in public that's ready to shower me with affection, but she becomes cold once the door closes.


In middleschool when I was getting bullied and sexually abused, my mom would again "Not even your husband will love me as much as I do." For godsakes, your husband is molesting me and you're ignoring the red flags.  I'm having my self-esteem ripped to shreds at school and you also say "Just put up with it, because it's the best school in the state." That's love?

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