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Meh:
"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." -- Sam Keen

I adore this quote but this doesn't really happen like this, somebody is taken in with the glamour of another person, the shimmery glamour of our projected ideals coming from our imagination wears off and then one is left with something a little closer to imperfect.
Heck I don't know. Just thought I would throw an awesome quote down.

Could also say that some of us have little dings in the windshield but others of us are almost if not completely "totalled" in the wreck of life. Crash!!!!! just feeling a tad dramatic I guess.

This quote also speaks to "seeing" clearly and also to understanding. (((Understanding)))

Hopalong:
I think experiencing even a spark of love...is a great thing.
In briefly or hopefully or temporarily loving another, you got to love YOURSELF, Bones...feeling how natural and OKAY it is to be motivated by giving it and receiving it...

I think that's a bright omen for you, Miz B.

Whole lotta people out here. One wonderful person in there.

love,
Hops

sKePTiKal:

--- Quote ---I adore this quote but this doesn't really happen like this, somebody is taken in with the glamour of another person, the shimmery glamour of our projected ideals coming from our imagination wears off and then one is left with something a little closer to imperfect.
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Yeah. This has been my experience too, Boat. And then I had another one - another kind of experience. That is, once you get to seeing the "imperfect" it's actually kinda magnifies the flow of love - whereever that comes from! LOL... I mean, I'm way imperfect, right? And still "workin' on it"... I have good/bad days... when my hubs is the source of everything wrong in my "world" - and I know that's just my own crankiness or another chunk of abusive patterns working itself loose... falling off... right on my foot. Sometimes I don't know it - until later. And then there are those totally cool spaces of time... days, sometimes as long as a week... when we're just tiptoe-ing through the tulips...

The thing is: the guys are just like us... but they're not going to "go there" and talk about it, because they believe they have this image to uphold: strong, protective, in charge, decisive... when really they're just scared we'll run screaming away from them -- because of who they are -- OR turn into controlling, demanding, divas. It's play - with no rules, really... but we all think there are rules and we're not sure exactly what they are.

Meh:
Mother T:
Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand.

Really?

Anybody want to explain the difference between romantic love and spiritual love? Besides the sex.
Reading a dumb dating book that is quoting mother Teresa...COME ON!!!!! Nobody would have ever dated :shock: mother teresa NEVER.
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Noticing how hard I am on myself, like I feel that I have to be Marilyn Monroe or a porn star practically. On the flip side of it the guys that I have these mini flings with that never turn into relationship well, they are not exactly wealthy brad Pitts so why do I feel that I have to be sooo much (even if I have made more money in the past then they ever have in their lives). I feel that women have to be more than what men are. Men don't often make a lot of apologies for who they are. How come we have to live up to so much and at the same time hope we didn't end up with a philandering player.
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I don't know P, men come across to me as being rather impersonal and egotistical. That is how I see their worlds and their kind of relating---- that a woman is just a thing that is supposed to boost their social status and that all the "intimacy" stuff is all plastic and rehearshed and manipulative to get their sexual impulses relieved.

I look really hard but I'm having a hard time seeing anything more. Sometimes I think we are all just animals reproducing and pretending to be civilized humans.

I still have that old therapist dude who sort of comes on to me at our mutual music listening venue. I think he does it to work the room, go over talk to this female, now go chit chat with the female bartender.

I'm the weirdo dark horse I sit there alone and listen to music like it's some kind of medicine for my soul. I don't often drink but you know that french painting with the woman drainking absinthe (thats me on the inside)

Meh:
Even at my age I'm afraid of rejection or to use a better less used term I'm afraid of losing love, of not being good enough, of some guy deciding that somebody else is easier, prettier, richer etc. etc. But I've got some kind of deep wounding related to this that makes me like a crazy person with issues because I really feel unlovable.

just so tired of life being a drag, want some sweetness something that makes life worth waking up for

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