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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: lighter on August 01, 2007, 11:43:24 AM
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Things I really really don't like:
Feel free to add to the list.
1) Taking a swig from one of my yummy brown Starbuck's coffee mugs..... then realizing it's an OOOLD cup of coffee.
I take mine w/plenty of milk, btw.
2) Being blindsided by an N ploy I didn't/couldn't see coming.
Outrageose stuff he can't possibly get away with long term but..... in the meantime..... I'm sure the look of shock on
my face is interpreted as guilt.
3) Having to pressure my attorney into advocating for me bc he doesn't undersatand what N is.
The relationship's working on the whole, though. Not complaining there.
4) Talking to other parens about their widdle puddins and trying not to create bad feelings. In fact, my stomachs doing
flips and I'm having an anxiety attack right now, face flushing warm, over that very subject. YIKES!
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palmetto bugs... big like roaches and squooshy like yuck.
emotional vampires... folks who don't "feel" cared-for until they can reduce you to a crumpled, puddly heap beneath their childish demands and rage - and then they wipe their filthy shoes on you.
one lone fly... the one that's been locked in your house for 3 days and made it his mission to dizzily dive bomb every bodily orifice at each opportunity... usually in the dark... waking you out of a sound sleep...
did I mention N?
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"widdle puddins"....does this mean you already have a child, or you're expecting?
okay, things i really don't like:
1. being accused of things i didn't do, and then not being believed
2. opportunistic/sociopathic drivers...people who think they're so special that they don't have to wait in traffic like the other thousands of people on the road, so they get into the faster-moving lane, and then cut in front of you at the last minute, causing traffic to build up in the faster lane. people who block intersections because they didn't wait until there was enough room for them on the other side and the light turned red.
3. stupid drivers....people who don't look before they change lanes, don't signal, and tailgaters.
4. perfume and air freshener
5. when people can't seem to look at themselves honestly and make changes for the better
6. people who only care about themselves
7. unexplainable back pain that lasts for years
8. the smell coming from my crawl space
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palmetto bugs... big like roaches and squooshy like yuck.
emotional vampires... folks who don't "feel" cared-for until they can reduce you to a crumpled, puddly heap beneath their childish demands and rage - and then they wipe their filthy shoes on you.
one lone fly... the one that's been locked in your house for 3 days and made it his mission to dizzily dive bomb every bodily orifice at each opportunity... usually in the dark... waking you out of a sound sleep...
did I mention N?
HeeeeedeEEEE! The Palmetto bugs and the orifice diving FLY! Add to that..
Biting horseflys:
Mosquitos:
Nesee um's
FLEAS!
The paranoid idea of scabees and those knit things that kids bring home from school in their hair. And ringworm!
Those last 3 are things loved ones have had in the last 3 years! One got scabees at the courthouse during jury duty.
My niece got lice at school.
My nephew got ringworm, on his head, at school and a friend got it on his elbow at martial arts class. These things are all hard hard hard to get rid of! BTW, my sister put lice poison on her dd's head 3 times and thought it wasn't very effective. She said the best thing was hitting them with a hot blow drying till her dd couldn't take it any more.
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NMMG..... I was already preggers some time ago. All done with that now.... whew!
I posted that to you earlier.
I try not to get upset in traffic, if possible.
In traffic..... I assume something happened to someone normal that caused them to behave badly then thank God I'm having a better day and try to stay happy.
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oh right, sorry! (i remember you told me you'd been preggers before).
i def. hate fleas and scabies. we call it "The Scabe". although i've never really lived in squalor, some friends of mine have, and thus i'd end up with The Scabe. i had it 3 times. once from my boyfriend, who got it from his mom's house. once from sitting on a friend's couch, and once from putting on a friend's sweater (who had The Scabe). horrible. *shudders*
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Being accused of DOING what someone else is doing. Maddening!
Hearing N's plan for lying and smearing my character.... in order to bully me into staying married. Not the most romantic gesture he's ever made, lol.
Being publicly gutted one minute then seeing the gutt-er extend a hand like a child...... and expect me to take it. BLECK
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1.) jerry seinfeld
2.) when I buy the same DVD twice
3.) confrontaions of any kind
4.) unexpected visitors
5.) the neighbour woman with laundry machines in her bedroom backed on mine and starting her laundry at 6:30 a.m. when I want to sleep later than that
6.) hearing same neighbour's alarm go off at 7:30, once a week
7.) neighbour woman
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oh yeah, i forgot to add this to my list:
dogs who bark incessantly...ooooh that irritates me to no end!
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1. Prawns
2. Improvised jazz
3. My Nsister saying 'Oh, don't be like thaaaat!!' in a stupid whiny voice.
4. Looking in the mirror and seeing that I look like my NMum
5. Treading on a slug while wearing slippers...then realising I've got a hole in my slippers
6. Insomnia
7. People who wear clothes that are too tight for them
8. Wasps
9. Making lists of things I don't like....because I now realise I could go on for hours!
Janet
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Paperwork... esp when it's in a pile the size of the one I'm looking at now: /
Axa..... I didn't figure out how to do a couple things ever day.... yet; )
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Tent worms that make their bag nests on tree branches I can't reach. Need a flame thrower!
(Paperwork on the floor, letting each piece be a playing card, makes it like a game of solitaire :D)
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What do tent works look like?!?!?
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What do tent works look like?!?!?
Oh, sometimes they're called "bag worms"... they make these white, cobbwebby like sacs on the branches of trees and consume all the leaves within that sac. They're not too bad this year, but some seasons the trees get infested with them and they can really strip alot of greenery away in short order.
on edit: Guess I need a lesson on how to insert an image. Izzy....... :D oops, she's busy. (((((((Bizzy Izzy)))))))
okay, will do it the old-fashioned way.... here's a photo at this link http://www.flickr.com/photos/52904861@N00/241175201/ (http://www.flickr.com/photos/52904861@N00/241175201/)
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1. Arrogance
2. Manipulation
3. Fennel
4. Loneliness
5. People who incessantly chew gum
6. Materialism
7. Ego driven NHS managers
8. Judgementalness if there is such a word
9. Snobbery
!0. Any kind of bullying
Spyralle x
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Nothing like biting into a bit of mystery meat sausage where the only recognizable ingredient is fennel: /
NOT a big fennel fan myself.
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I asked my friend P if she wanted to buy the book. Instead of saying, I do not know, or, I am thinking about it, or whatever polite answer and then asking why, she said, directly, "why?" I hate that kind of superior attitutud.
I hate people who think they are doing you a favor by visiting you, then pointing with a finger they say, I already came to visit you, now it is your turn.
I hate people who want you to come to their home, just for you to see them cook, and serve a lousy food, then you have to be grateful because they invited you to their house. Why not get together in a nice cafe and observe people, see a nice environment instead of watching the stupid face of one sinlge person in the loneliness of her property?
I hate to be in groups where everybody is a sheep who goes baaa baaaa baaa beeee beee baaaa and the N leader gives orders to everybody. Not only they obey, but they will defend him if you dare to have the most minimum disagreement with him/her.
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OMG Hope,
I remember tent worms ..............and Dad burning their nests in a scourge we had about 1952 when the roads were jus covered with them and made the driving very slippery.
I'm on the Pacific coast and just got up.
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::tapping foot:
But what do the worms inside the slippery bags look like?
And... why did they make the roads slippery?
Lupita:
You're gonna be just fine.
Stick to making better decisions about how you'll be treated and who you'll allow in your space.
It feels uncomfortable and there is a void where we experience lonliness and discomfort..... leaving behind old patterns and people.
Making mindful daily decisions will eventually start paying off. It gets better ((Lupita))
Remember that dance class where you just danced and opened yourself up to enjoying yourself in the moment?
Now.... I'm going to start a thread on the things we like, lol!
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Get a scourge of these covering the roads so you cannot see the road and drive over therm
slipe slide I was takin a ride
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Looks like a catepillar to me, Izz: /
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Yes I always referred to them as tent caterpillars-- but I knew what WAS MEANT re the tent.
It was awful to know they were all over in the trees, apple trees, where the swing was, would one drop on my head, what did they have to amble across the pathway to the barn--sometimes so thick I couldn't jump over the mess.
EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
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I like catepillars: )
Worms....?
Not so much.
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Yup, Izzy, that there's a tent caterpillar... but around here they're called bag worms.
Lighter, there are several different kinds that appear across the US, some with more colorful markings, like a blue stripe down the back...
but t'aint nuthin cute about 'em once ya see an entire yardfull of trees defoliated by the lil pests.
The slip sliding must be due to all the goo... eek... I can only imagine; never have seen them on the roads like that.
Izzy, how's the salad comin along? I see it's high noon over there where you are... hope you're keepin your cool! 8)
Love Hope
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Nice transition Hope, lol.... all that slippin and slidin must be due to the goo....
How's that salad coming, lol? Ack!
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Nice transition Hope, lol.... all that slippin and slidin must be due to the goo....
How's that salad coming, lol? Ack!
lol :D yer makin me drip fudgy all over the keyboard. :lol:
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Lick faster HOPE! LIIIIIICK!
lol
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The smell of the dishwasher drying during pregnancy! UGHH!
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Oh Hope,
They were so bad here this year that I didn't sit outside my house until 2nd week of July. Disgusting little things. It sounded like it was raining under the porch there were so many munching away. I would not eat out side or barbecue do to the fact they were falling all over the place. Glad it's over, Ehwww *shrills* got the Willey's now looking around for left over little buggers.
Deb
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Let me add to the bug,
I also HATE flee season. Thank God for Front Line which I would like to put on my own nap of my neck for outside.
Deb
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Speaking of fleas... one year my yard was infested with them bc of the wild cat problem in the hood.
I kept carrying them in when I went outside.... I had a baby and a toddler being eaten alive.... me too.
I would bomb then they would come back over and over and all that poison with babies in the house!
I called the bug man, who I had a contract with, they sent the manager.
He told me they were mite bites and to mop my floors daily!
I had to catch fleas and taped them to my front door for him to take to analyze <tic>
After all that, turned out they were cat fleas and he went out and found the problem and sprayed, finally.
After telling me my flea bites weren't flea bites! I was so ticked off!
I TOLD HIM I THOUGHT I HAD FLEAS IN THE YARD AND TO SPRAY THEM WHEN HE FIRST ARRIVED!
He wouldn't even entertain the idea: /
I hate it when I let people make me doubt my reality. Doctors, bug men, husbands and sibs... board members: /
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lol... sorry Deb... didn't mean to rouse up such a disgustin memory. Don't spose you want me to tell my humongous-flying-ant story then... :shock: :D Apparently the little house we were renting was built atop a nest/ant-condo-complex of monumental proportions...
okay, now I got the chills... lol.
Lighter, I finally had to gobble that fudgy down and mop up the keyboard here. It was for medicinal purposes, you see... a sort of turbo-charge of cold, to prep for goin out in the heat of the yard. Heat index must be at least 110 and my posies were weepin... poor thangs.
Soaked everything good, refilled the bird feeder, greased the one feeder pole with vaseline..
did I mention I dislike squirrels??
Well, I don't. Except they're fun to watch slide down the pole as they're tryin to make their way up to the feeder atop, to steal all the birdseed. Hey, when you live rural, gotta make yer own entertainment :D
And Lighter, I can relate to your flea-story... we've had a veritable zoo through the years... not to mention chiggers, which are like fleas to the 20th power.... and OH, can I ever relate to this:
" hate it when I let people make me doubt my reality. Doctors, bug men, husbands and sibs... board members "
It has taken me years to overcome the shyness/gullibility/avoidance combo under which I was crippled... to the point where now I don't just swallow the "expert" opinion whole, but actually can and do question it. Too many expert opinions simply don't make sense... 'specially when the so-called expert is N !!!! Sometimes I still take the bait, but can usually spit out the hook in time. Every bit of progress counts!
Love,
Hope
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Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
I just hated to walk under the trees-- go get an apple, to swing--and end up with one or ten in my hair
The scourge was when our whole County was infested.
I just finished the salads--one hour--washed my hands-cleaned the mayo from under my nails, filed them and now what?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,it's just going on 4: 00 p.m. and Y&R is just finishing--it got me through the chopping and dicing --even the final mixing and my frig is full.
I didn't find any caterpillars in my lettuce!
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Hope.... hate the professionals that expect you to swallow their advice/instructions whole.... even when you know better. Esp the baby doc's that won't listen.
I finally got to the point where I'll stand my ground and get that referral or stop them from shoving pink meds in child's mouth that I KNOW will come back out. They have to take my word for it now. ::shrug:: No one knows my children better than I do.
Izzy..... sounds like everythings under control.....
No catepillars in salad....
Check: )
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I finally got to the point where I'll stand my ground and get that referral or stop them from shoving pink meds in child's mouth that I KNOW will come back out. They have to take my word for it now. ::shrug:: No one knows my children better than I do.
You betcha, Mom! We had a wonderful, trusted pediatric ear/nose/throat doc, years ago, who warned me off all that pink stuff docs love to prescribe for kids (amoxicillin). That man was ahead of his time... he knew how resistant the "bugs" were gettin to penicillin and its varients. I've stuck by that bit of info through 3 more children and resisted antibiotics for the simple stuff, very rarely resorting to it when absolutely necessary.
Izzy... you are right on schedule and mayo-free nails, to boot! Yay :D
Love that bookworm... looks alot like me, actually... 'cept I have more hair :shock: 8)
Love,
Hope
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Someone who knows I've been sick to bed for days asking me in all seriousness my first day out, Why do you look so hollow eyed and pale?
tt
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Feeling comfortable with myself to wear no makeup..... then having my father say..... 'you look like a train hit you.'
Having my father tell me I look like a hooker when I have makeup on :shock:
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Oh I was so creeped out about fleas and then chiggers? What's a chigger? That I ran out to buy more frontline because I'm paranoid now.
Picked up a box of Frontline plus and read the front
FRONTLINE
Kills fleas, flea eggs, ticks AND Chewing Lice!!!
WHAT!!!
Chewing Lice????? is that like chiggers? It was bad enough when those moth things grew as big as MOTH MAN. But now chiggers and chewing lice. OHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh myyyyyyyyyyyyyy Goddddddddddd.
But the names do seem kind of appropriate for when I'm talking about N's. You know what chewing lice did to me? Let me tell you about that Chigger I married.
I should be back posting about my nightmares tommorrow.
I'm about ready to shave my animals Bald now.
Deb
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((((((((Deb))))))) lol
warm milk before bed? lol
Everything you never wanted to know about chiggers here: http://www.forestpests.org/publichealth/mites.html (http://www.forestpests.org/publichealth/mites.html)
They're a mite and they make the fiercest itch ever.. maybe you'd better not look till morning... if ever... lol
Love,
Hope
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((((((((Lighter))))))) ((((((((((tt))))))))))
just because
Love to you both,
Hope
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What about when you go out and your feeling like your looking good and really earthy natural looking and someone says
You feel alright? You look pale and like your getting sick. :roll: And you say Well I'm feeling a little sick when you feel FINE!! :oops:
Deb
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Just as a point re Ns
Did you ever tell your N about anything you didn't like, then get it in spades?
or tell the N what you DO like and then never get it?
They know
I figured it out and never again said what I liked and didn't
Izzy
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What about when you go out and your feeling like your looking good and really earthy natural looking and someone says
You feel alright? You look pale and like your getting sick. :roll: And you say Well I'm feeling a little sick when you feel FINE!! :oops:
Deb
I'm pretty sure I just stared in disbelief..... as it was my husband who said it to me in public during my second pregnancy. He was probably screwing people who worked there...... and didn't want them to see me looking bad bc it would reflect poorly on him@@
Poor sick pig, had to say goodbye.
Poor sick pig, doesn't want to say goodbye.
Poor sick pig, gonna have'ta say goodbye.
Poor sick pig, no choice but live a lie.
Bye bye pig.
::leaving pig behind::
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[eeling comfortable with myself to wear no makeup..... then having my father say..... 'you look like a train hit you.'
Having my father tell me I look like a hooker when I have makeup on :shock:
Dear Lighter,
I have to say that the above quote EPITOMIZES my life.
With this in mind I would like to add my list---about my Mother(of course)-
Told that I need to fix myself up. Then, when I did fix myself up, being told,'Why do you spend so much time on your appearance?
Being told not to be afraid of her German Shepherd and then the dog ( who was untrained and she would not admit it) almost took a chunk out of my Husbands leg. The dog later bit someone and was given away
My H build a house that is his prize possession. She says, "Me--- I could live in a hut. This place is conspicuous consumption"
Love Ami
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I do not like waiting in line at Target or anywhere else. I do not like adults that treat my kids poorly-I was not protected so I always protect mine. I really do not like my mom. I do not like my h when he is drunk-in fact I hate mean drunks-happy drunks are ok sometimes.
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((Overcomer)) I wish he didn't get drunk and mean on you.
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He stopped being mean, now he is just plain stupid, I tell him to shut up and he does. I do not like legalistic Christians.
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Don't like
incessant gum chewing, especially w/ cracking
loud eating and crunching noises or, god forbid, slurping or teeth sucking
being one-downed and undermining/invalidation in general
copy editing errors in books (i.e. "the crowd disbursed") :P
Wuthering Heights
ayn rand - irritating!
monologues, esp. in meetings
lima beans ::shudder::
unreliable vehicles and all adventures that come with them
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The sting of my stomach muscles fascia tearing apart when I overdo, lift children... stuff that just used to be stuff.
Not knowing how everything will turn out... as far as how badly the N will hurt our children: (
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When I put passion on something, thinking I am going to be likable by the group leader, and all I do is upset him beacuse he feels threatened. I wanted the oposite. I get the opposite of what I was looking for.
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Ahhh Lupita.
You have to find nicer people to hang around..... that's all.
You're type of person is sought out by N's.....because no one else will put up with them.
Don't let them think they can shove you around anymore.
Enforce those boundaries and send them elsewhere.
Lupita can enforce her bouandaries and require better treatment for herself.
So can Lighter.
So can everyone here: /
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Ahhh Lupita.
You have to find nicer people to hang around..... that's all.
You're type of person is sought out by N's.....because no one else will put up with them.
Don't let them think they can shove you around anymore.
Enforce those boundaries and send them elsewhere.
Lupita can enforce her bouandaries and require better treatment for herself.
So can Lighter.
So can everyone here: /
Count me in please, dear Lighter!
The walls are down... now onward to build some fences with gates, properly located, of course.
In the meanwhile, just S O O O P H 'ing merrily along :D (Staying Out Of Other Peoples' Heads!)
(((((((((Lighter)))))))))) (((((((((((Lupita)))))))))))
Love,
Hope
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Yes yes yes, lol.
SOOPHING is a good thing: )
Like the idea of proper garden gates and fences..... walls down.
I like it a lot; )
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Wow Iphi How can you not like Wuthering Heights.... I love that book. Even went there just to see for myself..!!
More things I don't like
1. Clutter (even though I have loads)
2. Procrastination... even though I am always doing it
3. Dodgy unrelaible public transport
4. Interviewers or driving examinors who deliberately make it worse by not smiling
5. The cellulite on my knees
6. People that come to view my house and say all the right things then don't buy it!!!!!!
7. Liars
8. Blamers
9. Anything strawberry flavoured but I love strawberries
10. Lecherous sleazy men full of sexual innuendo and double entendre Yuck yuck yuck...
Spyralle xxx
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Hi-
This thread has given me a new term to add to my NH lexicon- bag worm!!!!! " I need to take a flamethrower to that disgusting BAG WORM!!!" Ah, it's poetry!
Many of these posts are spellbinding in their hilarity!
Changing
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when my car poops out on me and needs repairs.
when my $90.00 lamp will no longer work less than a year after purchase and I don't have the sales slip
when I am the poster who brings the thread to a halt ...most times
that I cannot wear earrings anymore, as they make my lobes itch
that being stressed makes me itch...everywhere.
any holiday
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Well, Izzy, you can cross that halting thing off yer list... gotcha covered over here :lol:
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Well, Izzy, you can cross that halting thing off yer list... gotcha covered over here :lol:
::::Tumbleweed blows by::::::
::::wind blows.:::
hee
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Ha Ha Heh Heh
ya got me!
Loved it
Izzy
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spyralle wrote
Wow Iphi How can you not like Wuthering Heights.... I love that book. Even went there just to see for myself..!!
Sorry spyralle I'm not very romantic I'm afraid! When I first had to read it for school I said "These people need therapy!" :lol: But certainly the moors are incredibly beautiful, nothing against the moors.
::Iphi off to wander the moors unromantically with extra sunblock, cell phone, sturdy shoes, cooler bag with sensible lunch, compass, umbrella (just in case), pepper spray::
If I run into any Heathcliffs, I'm calling the cops.
But seriously, the reason the book is on my list is because of how Heathcliff makes the children miserable and unhappy and desperate. Strikes too close to the knuckle.
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lol at Iphi's wanton moors regalia.....
Me on the other hand would be desperately rampaging around trying to be ethereal in my nightie....
I guess you are right.. there is a very dark side to Heathcliffe... He is certainly a tortured soul... funny that I only see the romance of the situation.. as a child that was pretty much treated the same, I seem to blind spot that behaviour and end up feeling sorry for the person... I must spend more time thinking about that.. Thanks Iphi
spy x
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Things I don't like.....
--being late
--being judged harshly/not being forgiven
--when my favorite levis are too tight
--stretch marks
--traffic
--hair in food
--when you diet like crazy and do all the right things and don't lose a pound.
--doing the dishes
This is fun. Thanks!
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YVW, Poppy: )
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Add to the list....
enjoying a beautifully prepared breakfast.....
while listening to a pet lover discuss the intricacies of their large dog harfing up meatballs.....
then squirting incontrollably on the carpet..... ::gag::
OMG..... just so not good: (
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Sorry Lighter. YVW??? what does that mean? I was dropped as a child. :D
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Sorry Lighter. YVW??? what does that mean? I was dropped as a child. :D
YVW means you're very welcome: )
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I don't really like the first day of school.
It's always a bit hectic and we sign up for parties and events months and months in advance of knowing our schedules and must have all vital stats and med info available and numbers for all folks picking up in carpool and it's always so cramped with people speaking to you while you're trying to concentrate and figure out why your child won't stop whining about your signing up FOR EVERY PARTY then you realize she thought she couldn't attend anything unless you signed up and she didn't understand and you didn't understand enough to help her understand.... ::BIG INTAKE OF BREATH::
At least I got to speak with the teacher, before and after hectic time, and talk about my widdle puddin, lol.
She'll try to run the class if she feels the teacher is at all falling down on the job, lol... in her opinion.
The teacher just has to reassure her that she has it under control and puddin only has to worry about herself: )
Having nice, clean light colored, clothes swiped with popscicles on the playground was a nice addition to the regular routine; )
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((((((((Lighter)))))))) 1st day of school hugs for you and for lil popsicle puddin, too :)
Happy Weekend!
Love,
Hope
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Thanks Hope, lol.
It wasn't traumatic this time.... cause I kinda hafe it figured out but.....
These things are always difficult for an introvert.
Esp with a younger child in towe..... and I've always had a younger child in towe, lol.
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Thanks Hope, lol.
It wasn't traumatic this time.... cause I kinda hafe it figured out but.....
These things are always difficult for an introvert.
Esp with a younger child in towe..... and I've always had a younger child in towe, lol.
lol.. I understand, on both counts, Lighter. Each time I've had one start school, there was a newborn to tote (X4). Wasn't really scheduled that way, just sorta happened :shock: but all worked out pretty well :) I wouldn'ta missed it for the world!
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Hope.... how many children do you have? Did you say 3 or 4?
I can't quite remember.
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Four, Lighter... 25, 20, 16, 11... guess that shoulda been - toting a newborn each time (X3)...
Weee.... I can barely remember my eldest's early school days :?. Only a blur... running to work, homework, activities... just a blur.
But I'm enjoying every moment with these last two - 11th and 6th grades, now... and it's nothing but pure pleasure to be "awake" and alert to every bit of it. Exhausting, but fun! Thank God for the strength and energy to keep up : )
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::picking up jaw and going to get ready for fancy party::
4 children.... ?
::coming back to computer.... scratching ant and mosquito bites::
I can't even wrap my mind around the work it woud take to raise 4 children.
It's astounding how much work children are.
Truly.
How come I never knew how much work they are until I had them?
Is there some kind of parental
conspiracy
pay back
thingy.....
going on, lol?
How could I not know alllllll the way into my late 30's how much work it is, lol?
You rock, Hope.
And.... living in the moment is one of the very best gifts we can give our children: )
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Fancy party?? :o :D Hope you left those ants and skeeters at home!
Lighter, if I tried to wrap my mind around the past 25 years, I'd be mumbling in a corner... feels like I've been a mom forever.
And I did pretty well... till it came time to let go. Not so good at that.
Lots of lessons learned... pages missing from the manual, yanno... instructions all in Greek... first 12 years, didn't notice I was holding them upside down (the instructions, not the kids :D) :P
Ahhh... my mother has nuthin to brag on when she thinks of me... so few accomplishments.... but then talking with your children, hugging them, loving them, explaining yourself to them, grinning like a fool as they spread silliness all over the house... that sorta stuff doesn't rank with her.
Things I don't like: my mother.
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Oh Hope.... you really made me laugh, lol.
You're funny and I so did think you were talking about having the kids upside down, not the directions.
The party was great. The food was wonderful. Yummmy olives and cheeses and chicken and pork and rare tenderloin and enough nice chamagne that I could still dance, even with all that food in my tummy. Pasta salad and desserts and pink lemonade!
I didn't worry about the bug bites but I was carrying itch spray so I'd come prepared.
Lots of company and I was at ease and comfortable in the world, even without going into observation mode. I was among friends and I think I can see how entering back into the world as myself could be, in the future.
The children saw their father on Sunday. I think he wanted to give them back after a couple hours time. He was never around them enough to understand that they require energy and attention..... and focus. Truly... if you aren't going to rule by fear..... they require energy and focus.
He kept them a good long while and I'm sure he passed out cold when he got to his bed, lol. The children were very happy with the visit. Daddy on good bahavior..... I don't have to worry about his hurting them until the court's not giving him the eye anymore. Looks like we're going to have forensic evaluations ordered all around: /
I'm a bit frightened of what they'll find, with regard to how scary he is, quite frankly :shock:
I guess we have to find out though.
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(Hope's inner Steven Colbert is trying to come out...) :lol:
Lighter, loved thinking of you full of bubbly and dancing...I'm so glad you got to a party.
Glad too that El Patron had to behave and the little ones stayed well.
You deserve hope. And Hope, for that matter!
love to y'all both,
Hops
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(((((((Lighter)))))))
I don't like observation mode. So glad you were able to relax and participate in life!
Forensic exams sound intimidating, but that deer-in-the-headlights look will be on the right face, for once.
Love,
Hope
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Yes yes yes..... good to go out and good to have Hope around, Hops: )
Say that fast 3 times, lol.
Good to have you around too...... I really appreciate your input.
Hope.... I think he'll be a bit more focused on the exam giver, than deer in the headlights.
I can only hope that the psychologist knows what to look for, when dealing with charming abusers, and can identify it.
He'll be looking to manipulate the test as well.
We'll see how that works out for him.
As for me, if you get me talking about my kids, it's hard to shut me up, lol.
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bugs
fruit flies
rainy days (love rainy nights)
calls from Ken
dust
my addiction to DVDs
rent increases, when they won't replace this 45 yr.old linoleum
undergroung parkiing increases when nothing changes
Seinfeld!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fruitflys I get.....
but Seinfeld?!!??
How could you hate Seinfeld???
::warming to questioning Izzy::
Is Ken the guy who keeps hanging around and being nice but controlling after all these years?
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When I don't understand something and I ask for clarification and the other person gets angry with me .........oh yes, nearly forgot that is what Ns do.
Confusion = abuse
axa
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When I don't understand something and I ask for clarification and the other person gets angry with me .........oh yes, nearly forgot that is what Ns do.
Confusion = abuse
axa
Oh, this is on my top 10, as well! It was the constant theme of my childhood... couldn't ask anything. Then npd-ex showed me it really is an N-trademark... never question the King/Queen!
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Hope,
My group talked the other day about when they were starting their recovery, it was all about themselves not who they had hurt, they said it was all, me, me, me, and I want, I want, I want......... they used the term King Baby!!!! Think it describes Ns pretty well.
axa
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DENIAL
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Yes, lighter,
Ken is the one who has called me regularly for about 15 years, minus the 4 I was with the N, and is always one-upping me re my daughter.
I finally asserted myself and told no more calls talking about her.
No I never liked Seinfeld. I never thought he was funny!
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Never liked Jerry Seinfeld but thought George was a stitch!
Hoppers
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I don't like TV, full stop, so I'm afraid I haven't the foggiest idea what you're talking about!
Janet
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Things I don't like:
Confidences broken.
When gossip overtakes discretion of what should be spoken or not.
My hair messed with.
My head messed with.
Poker
Environment without books.
Edit in: The feeling I have that PM's here are traded between members like Pokemon Cards between adolescents. Please someone tell me it isn't true. And what is the protocol for PM's anyway?
Edit in: For anyone who frets about me changing my posts, ooops, I did it again!
tt
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The thing that I don't like, most of all ,is that if I go against that deep inner voice which is telling me truth. Ami
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Edit in: For anyone who frets about me changing my posts, ooops, I did it again!
tt
Oh great, tt, lol......
Now I have Britney Spears in my head....
ET HER OUUUUT!! Get her out!
hee
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lighter,
Good heavens...get her out? Not a good use of brain real estate!
tt
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Things I don't like:
My feet being dirty.
A person serving me food with dirty fingernails (common in restaurants and food packaging houses).
Bus boys flapping a dirty dishrag across the table I'll be sitting at and calling it clean.
I don't eat out much! :lol:
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GACK tt!
I'm really feeling puny today.....
::gag::
First you put Brit in my noggin....
and now this, with the dirty bus boy wrags and filthy fingernails...lol; )
Uh oh... I'm sorry... was I not supposed to giggle, lol?
Oops...
::singing:: I did it again...
darnit, lol.
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Having to pack and move and fix up the house on a laughable budget and schedule- seems like several of us on this board are doing this now. I would love to visit Venice and Rome, and have a service pack and fix everything while I am drooling at the statuary and architecture...Unfortunately, I only have a mop to stare at here!
Love,
Changing
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((changing))
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
Packing up and moving..... and for no good reason at all.
Just so your N can't further sabotage you... :shock:so frustrating and it's like having a war mounted against you for nothing.
There isn't anything to win.
The attorney's will be the only winners if he keeps this up: /
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Missy Lighter-
It will be fine-things will work out. I want to be in control of as much as possible, though! Thank you for the hugs! I'm going back to my mop now- I've named it la Pieta!
Love,
Changing
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You are cradling it like Mary cradling the body of Jesus?? It is a moving and vivid image, but will it clean the floor? :wink:
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- Packing for anything
- Unpacking from anything
- I can smell manipulation and I hate it
- The annoying sound of someone clipping their nails, expecially in public
- Surprises
- Never having surprises
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Changing,
Venice & Rome, so worth the trip, keep mopping and dreaming, some day you will glide down the grande canal on a gondola snuggling up to that mop!
axa
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"Wanting" to stay sick( resistance to change and healing) b/c it is "comfortable and familiar.
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Dark circles around my eyes.
Eggs
Goodbyes
Having to show my butt to get heard
tt
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When I fall apart over something simple b/c I get triggered.---bleh.
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I don't like for my feet to get dirty. Edit in: Oooops! I guess I really hate my feet being dirty. I see I already put that one up. :?
Women who talk in little girl voices.
A person who assumes that I have a secret ulterior motive if I speak of being a Christian.