Paranoia and Persecution Complex

[reallyME]

I would like any of us who are so inclined, to think about how we react to correction by someone else.

Recently, I've really been examining this in myself and finding out new ways of stating my view without being a "martyr" or a "bully" but I've had people in my past, when I pointed out something that was upsetting in their behavior, all of a sudden either accuse me of "attacking" them or else claim that everyone was out to get them.

sometimes, posting a situation that has happened privately, in such a way as to leave it sounding "Generic" is a persons' way of working through issues.  I know that I'm doing that very thing right now.  I'm in a situation with someone where I've brought correction to them but they are now seeing it as though I'm "Out to get" them.

I ask  you all...paranoia?  persecution complex?

When someone corrects a person, why can't they just say "I disagree with your perception in that, but I will think about it, consider it, pray on it," rather than launching into attack mode or "they all hate me" scenarios.

Just some food for thought.

[Leah]

I would like any of us who are so inclined, to think about how we react to correction by someone else.

Recently, I've really been examining this in myself and finding out new ways of stating my view without being a "martyr" or a "bully" but I've had people in my past, when I pointed out something that was upsetting in their behavior, all of a sudden either accuse me of "attacking" them or else claim that everyone was out to get them.

sometimes, posting a situation that has happened privately, in such a way as to leave it sounding "Generic" is a persons' way of working through issues.  I know that I'm doing that very thing right now.  I'm in a situation with someone where I've brought correction to them but they are now seeing it as though I'm "Out to get" them.

I ask  you all...paranoia?  persecution complex?

When someone corrects a person, why can't they just say "I disagree with your perception in that, but I will think about it, consider it, pray on it," rather than launching into attack mode or "they all hate me" scenarios.

Just some food for thought.

With respect,

Do we really need a Pastor on board whose behaviour has clearly evidenced a total lack of discernment

and disregard and disrespect for so many persons - human beings - on the board?

Please I implore you, Pastor Laura, to demonstrate some wisdom, some common decency, and step down from your pulpit

[reallyME]

I'm not steppin down from anywhere. 

[Gabben]

This is a really good topic.


No doubt, critism is hard to swallow along with our pride. The twist and turns the mind makes in and attempt to defend ourselves  is baffling.

The more that I look at myself and the less I spend time looking at others, the easier it is for me to accept critism with responsibility for my actions.

My thinking and behavior are like muscles in that the more I exercise courage, the stronger that muscle gets, the easier it is to accept others opinions without so much defense.

Like Mother Teresa says, it all comes down to you and God anyway...it never was about them in the first place.

And yes, I'm preaching a little -- but only to myself - if it helps anyone else, then great

Lise

[Leah]

I'm not steppin down from anywhere. 

With respect,

No one has asked you to step down.

Just that yesterday you made an announcement on the board that you are a Pastor of 10 years.

I for one, was not aware of that.

Leah

[reallyME]

Leah: With respect,

No one has asked you to step down.

Really?  Please read your own words in this very thread, up above (reposted below):

Leah: With respect,

Do we really need a Pastor on board whose behaviour has clearly evidenced a total lack of discernment

and disregard and disrespect for so many persons - human beings - on the board?

Please I implore you, Pastor Laura, to demonstrate some wisdom, some common decency, and step down from your pulpit

I'd like to be sarcastic and post "or maybe it was my mental block that caused me to read that you wanted me to "step down", but I'll be nice since yes, I am a pastor.

[Leah]

Leah: With respect,

No one has asked you to step down.

Really?  Please read your own words in this very thread, up above (reposted below):

Leah: With respect,

Do we really need a Pastor on board whose behaviour has clearly evidenced a total lack of discernment

and disregard and disrespect for so many persons - human beings - on the board?

Please I implore you, Pastor Laura, to demonstrate some wisdom, some common decency, and step down from your pulpit

I'd like to be sarcastic and post "or maybe it was my mental block that caused me to read that you wanted me to "step down", but I'll be nice since yes, I am a pastor.

Dear Pastor Laura,

As you are aware the phrase to "Step Down from the Pulpit"

in Ecumencial terms

means to 'stand with the people'


If you are truly are a Pastor with a vocational pastoral heart, then surely, it is only fair and reasonable to expect a higher standard of interaction and engagment.


Respectfully,

Leah