Told to try elsewhere? Wow, Zeene, it sounds like you dodged a bullet.
You might try ACOA. That's Adult Children of Alcoholics (and Dysfunctional Families - they dropped the DF from the acronym some time back).
A lot of the issues and problems and damage are similar from addicts vs. narcissists as parents, you might be surprised at the amount of common ground. [On edit - maybe it's not so surprising. Narcissists are addicted --to themselves-- in a way, aren't they.]
I know there are a couple of ACOA chat rooms, try doing a search on ACOA and the main link should come right up.
Good luck! I used to go to ACOA meetings when I lived on the West Coast, and they were great.