I'm going to have to go back and re read the posts, MO4, lol. I don't remember that lesson but I sure need to learn it.
Oh, that was in my reply to you, Lighter... post #25 ( I had to look back, too.)
Here it is:
"My husband hasn't entirely broken contact... but he has stopped both responding and reacting. He will, on rare occasions, initiate a call. Very rare, and usually, in the past, as a result of my encouragement. And he sends gifts on occasions. So he hasn't cut her out, just made her a non-factor in daily life... and apparently has no "list" of requirements which would change that."
Mof4, That was in reference to my mother-in-law... not that she's NPD, just someone with whom my husband has chosen to take this approach because... well, I guess he finds it too difficult to be "real" with her? Much of this is unclear to me yet, but I think it's just too much of an emotional swampland for him to put in a toe...
Anyhow, yes! NoN-factor with reference to N's is the way to go!
