I'm Glad That I Have a Fence

[changing]

Hello Mon General Lighter-

The PI and lawyer are totally unrelated disruptions to my peaceful existence!PI/adjustor just wants to depose Bagworm on a matter stemming from a job of his old employers'.
I got a lot of excellent proof stuff- and I got things mailed to me as well!I just hope that things are on the up and up- if not, I will be ready to fight on.
In my state, when a fraud is attempted regarding any community property that specific item is supposed to be given 100% to the innocent party (though I am sure the court has discretion)as an incentivefor honest conduct- that money should be mine 100% by rights when I submit the evidence (but not everything works that way in real life). If the money is spent, then I should get credit for 100% in the split for the savings. Most importantly, I don't want them to award Bagworm support from my tiny money- he doesn't want to work, but could get the money he is asking for with a minimum wage job- and he commands big bucks in his field. The law looks extremely disfavorably upon someone who deliberately sets a thing like this up, doesn't work to avoid paying support, and imposes imputed earnings amounts on them, expecting them to get a job and support the disabled spouse. But there is so much intrigue and unfairness...I am afraid that Bagworm may pull this off, even though he is wrong and a fraud and liar.I haven't been able to accept the real possibility of that injustice yet, and I need to, in order to think clearly and plan for contingencies and appeals. I am going to keep processing this, and hopefully I will get a handle on my irrational feelings. Please pray for me!

Love,
Changing

[changing]

Dear Izzy-

Thank you for your post. I know that if you have confidence in me, I am going in the right direction- so I'll keep going!!! Hope all is well and your leg is healed (wounds, anyway).

Love and Thanks, Changing

[Iphi]

Why not have your attorney provide the PI in the work matter with a courtesy copy of the Notice of Hearing in your divorce? 

[lighter]

OK... you spoke to your attorney today, right?

Who are the Judges in your county?

Did your attorney know?

Who do they want you to draw.  It's done by lottery here.

IF you draw a particularly bad Judge.... say one your attorney insulted a while back.... YOU HAVE TO KNOW THIS and find another attoney that has the Judges ear... not cheating just a fair hearing.  

A good attorney will tell you who you need to hire according to Judge selection.

They may be perfect or fine or whatever but..... speak to a couple attorneys and ask who you need to hire, considering the circumstances that arise.

Like I said.... if scumbag hired a shady attorney.... then everyone knows he did bc everyone knows who the shady attorneys are.

This sounds pretty cut and dried.... not a lot to fight over..... what was scumbag's reason for not working again?

Dont' spend all your money on attorney's fees if you can help it.  

You'll end up doing all your own work, which seems to be pretty standard so.... try to stay on top of fees and get a weekly report of hours and explanation.

[finding peace]

Oh Changing,

I am so sorry Bagworm’s paid flunky is now harassing you. 

I once had a stalker who did the same thing – feeling helpless in a house while someone is banging and screaming at your door is horrific.  I am so sorry this happened to you and am glad it is over.  I hope there is some process whereby he can be held accountable.

As far as the ludicrous demands, could this be a ploy?  You know, demand the moon and then some – hoping to intimidate you into giving him at least three quarters of it?  I don’t know the legal ramifications (or if it would be safe), but I would be sorely tempted to demand the moon and then some right back – kinda like a ha! ha! I am onto you loser?

I admire you so much Changing.  You have a tremendous amount of stress on your plate right now – physical, emotional, intellectual, and yet you always seem so balanced and positive, and are so supportive of everyone here.  You are the very definition of grace in my eyes.

Much love to you – you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Peace

[changing]

My Dear Iphi Lighter and Finding Peace-
Thank you so much for your informative and inspiring words. I cannot begin to describe how soothing it is to have friends who will keep watch with you during times of impending conflict. The modern world seems so impersonal and always too busy for such things, and I know that I am blessed to have your sincere interest.
The Bagworm does not want to pay any support for his disabled wife, nor does  he want her to succeed in replacing her old profession with one that she might be able to manage with her dodgy foot, etc., so he stopped working and is demanding that I support him! As he has take our savings, he has been able to live quite nicely indeed without a job, while I struggle paying the bills. But we shall see how this plays out- I have found so much evidence of his wrongdoings and of fraud in his court documents!
However, I may have to replace my lawyer soon.  The lawyer seems almost miffed at the juicy items of evidence that  I have found or have been given for free, as now they must be painstakingly added to the initial response instead of gotten in via a long and expensive process. I want as much evidence introduced up front as possible, instead of it being used to try to convince the court to change its decision later!!The lawyer was also bashing a former client whose  motion was lost, and starting to scrutinize how much I spent for certain items (believe me, nothing fishy) that were budgeted during the marriage, etc. I felt sick at this, but need to regain my equilibrium  back and keep stepping. I called an acclaimed firm and they charge $800.00 per hour. HAHAHAHAHA.
Please pray that I take the next indicated step.

Sincere Thanks and Love,
Changing

[changing]

Hello Lighter-

I am so sorry that you have been kicked around so much in the quest for justice for you and the babies. It makes me sick and sad. Thank you for revisiting such a painful ongoing wounding in order to help me.I am getting a new attorney before things really heat up- like now! Mine was making sympathetic noises and talking about how the Bagworm's lawyer must have believed something he said in order to violate the law and try to break into my house! That was it for me. But it continued...how some clients convince an attorney and then it turns out they were lying, and the attorney is glad to lose those cases, have ladies lose their children, etc. No thanks- especially when this person was not even familiar with basic language in the standard form (I had to show it to them). YIKES!!!! I feel that I  need someone who is aggressive NOW that I have the evidence, etc (ie when a highly paid man suddenly stops working prior to separation, and then absconds with all of the community funds without givng an address, there are established principles and procedures for this sort of thing and it must be pointed out now, not after some bogus suport is awarded)etc., and will put in the proper work to lay things out and put the objective facts in the record, as well as drawing the rational inferences that have been recognized by the courts- it is so much harder to undo an unjust decision than to establish the facts which are in accordance with the rule of law first. In any case, I want everything on the record NOW, not just some quickie hack job so we can "get all of that to the court later", while I am payimg a man who is not working and spending all of our money, and buyimg a new car, etc.

Thank you for your understanding and direction. Stay strong my friend.
Love,
Changing