Dear Phoenix (the new name is inspiring!) and Lighter-
Thank you for your replies and for asking about me. I finished 1L- have to wait 5 weeks to see the results. I finally got accommodations for my disabilities, and it helped a great deal.
As far as my case goes, my attorney seemed to have "lost it" somewhere along the way- He is quite intelligent , but at a certain point he was unreachable, phone and fax numbers were disconnected, he eventually apologized to the clients but I ended up having to go to the courthouse and get copies of my files repeatedly ( horrible timing for my papers and exam studies) and send copies to the lawyer, trying to reach him and prevent a disaster, etc. Bottom line-It looks like we defaulted!!! I have a friend at the law school who was living in a one room apartment with 3 children, including a small baby, when her doctor husband slammed her unfairly in court and took it all. She reopened her case with a new attorney, and now she has a lovely home in a great area, etc.
I have retained her lawyer and have another bogus OSC coming up ( in my DV group, so many of the ladies are bludgeoned incessantly by ridiculous legal maneuvers, the abusers hauling them into court , disrupting and destabilizing their work and lives, often bankrupting them financially and emotionally. It helps so much to have them to talk to, as people who haven't been in this sick cycle become bored with the subject easily, or simply see you as hysterical or stupid "why haven't you just handled it", so I tend to avoid the subject and keep my predicament to myself.) Luckily, my new attorney is giving me a break on costs, by having me write things up, gather the documents, serve subpoenas, etc. -
I have internet again, long distance telephone, etc (still no TV)- cutting too close to the bone was imprudent and pathological- I couldn't handle my business efficiently. I have had to make arrangements for repayment on two of my bills- I kept thinking that I would get my money that the Bagworm stole from me, and that I would be divorced, etc, so I did without more and more-not too smart!!!! I am feeling much better and more effective now- What a numbskull I can be!!!!
All of the pets are just lovely- the kitty that was hurt at the beginning of the year looks wonderful, and scampers about ( but sometimes slips when he turns corners, etc). The vet that I took him to had changed hands from old-timers to a corporation- I was desperately broke, and though they have gotten many thousands in the past from me, they hassled me to hold 2 checks for payment. I brought cash to pay for the first check as was arranged, then came with cash to pick up the second check at the appointed time as well- they insisted that the check wasn't there, and that their computer showed that the check had been submitted to the bank and cleared (not our agreement)- I waited and waited as they checked and rechecked this. I deposited the funds back into the bank, and didn't follow up as I should have, as I was also desperately trying to save my divorce case from being spoiled, going to the courthouse, going to law school, and living on nothing...I later got a nasty letter about MY NOT PERFORMING MY END OF THE BARGAIN!!! Of course , I had to handle this at the worst time possible, etc. Anyway, they were completely wrong about the kitty- no $20,000 neuro work was needed, his hindquarters are not paralyzed, he has complete continence, etc.
The Baby dog is a grown-up now, but still a Baby. I feel so secure with him, and he is truly good natured. I have Izzyfied my house even more, and I love it- almost everything is white and it feels so good and spare and under control and comfortable- so easy to wash everything white and make it shine. Bagworm still hasn't taken his things!!!! Still no list, etc- this pattern of abusers leaving "stuff" behind at the house they have left and using it as a control mechanism is almost universal among the ladies at the DV group!!!! Amazing!!!! It evokes laughter in everyone there when someone mentions this issue!!!!
Thank you for caring and for being you- it has really helped.
Love From Your Friend,
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