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I will never find f***ing peace

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KayZee:
((((((F.P.))))))

Sending you lots of strength, peace, love and light.  You're an amazingly strong woman and loving mother.  Remind yourself a lot that you're not to blame for hubby's disease or his deceptions (those alcoholics are sooooo darn sneaky, as good as deceiving others as they are at deceiving themselves).

so much love and lots of hugs, Kay

sKePTiKal:
Go ahead and appropriate the name, Peace!  It's just a name, the symbolic charm has worn off for me.  ;)

I want to quibble with you, tho - over the idea that you're deserting him... He's not a child that needs mothering. As tough as his situation is, he's a grown man and it seems to me...

what you're really doing - is saving yourself, refusing to be the mouse to his cat, and saving your kids...

and giving him the real space to make a real choice for himself about change. No one - not even you, the super-mama, can do it for him. He absolutely HAS to do the work, walk the walk, himself. He can't do that within the comfort zone of the support and safety net the family provides for him. The power of "habit" is too strong in the comfort zone.

(((((((Peace))))))))

Eat well, get plenty of sleep. Don't torment yourself thinking thoughts of over-responsibility for things he needs to do for himself. Keep your thoughts focused on what needs to be taken care of today... tomorrow... one baby-step at a time as you move forward into a new comfort zone.

Hopalong:
You are welcome, Sweet Pea...ce.

And thank you for what you said.
Sometimes when I can get it down and someone finds it really speaks to their need,
I feel as though I've been given a gift too.

So thank you. Helping you makes me feel good.

love and courage == you are through the gate now.

What's on the other side will be different, and that's okay;
you will be okay

love,
Hops
and PS, Lighter, thank you for your kind seeing,

sKePTiKal:
Hi Hon! How're you holding up?

Are things starting to be calmer now... falls into life-rhythms again?

Are you feeling any better?

lighter:
Peace:

Have you found a group (that you like) to help you gain information and support for youself?

You're going to need advocates, and steady souls, who've been where you are to sturdy you up, IMO.

It's OK to reach out for help.  You don't have to carry the entire world all by yourself any more.

It's not in your power, so try seeking out people who know where you, and how to get through it, huh?

(((((Finding Peace and family))))

Lighter

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