I should clarify my statement, Kay --
in my case, I'd learned from my NM that, that kind of "caring" was the velvet glove that masked the iron fist about to knock me down. I seriously distrusted empathy or sympathy or caring directed at me. I was adept at pushing people away from me - and then, eventually wondering why I was so alone. LOL...
Attachment issues - a person gets twisted up, inside-out, upside-down, backwards through the rabbit hole. A kind of permanent "opposite day".
In some strange way, I trusted the T relationship more -- because I was paying her; perhaps because of my attachment issues. I trusted the caring/transfer finally, deeply enough and long enough, enough times... that I could walk on and carry the feeling with me - touch it when I needed it. We'd finally finished polishing those grooves and reinforcing those neural connections in my brain.