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Trying to stay NC, they won't stop stalking me!
BonesMS:
Just thought of something.....don't know if it will help.......
In this day and age, if a strange package turns up and it was NOT expected, report it to the police as a SUSPICIOUS package and let them treat it as something from a terrorist! (Which is what the NBITCH really is!) Or place it elsewhere and let someone else report it as a suspicious package to Homeland Security!
Bones
JustKathy:
Thanks guys. I’ve pondered the restraining order, but I keep resisting because it would give NM the ultimate gift. It’s want she wants, for me to engage her and fight back. She would die happy if she could send a copy of a restraining order to every member of my family along with a tear stained letter about her daughter doing this cruel deed to her while she is dying of cancer.
The other thing I'm wondering about is who really dropped this box off. It most likely was my co-Father, who does whatever he is told, even though he is too old to drive anymore. But at 82, could he have done this with such amazing speed and stealth? My dog can hear a pin drop six blocks away, yet never barked while someone pulled up to my house and trespassed into our garage (which is attached and shares a wall with the kitchen). I also find it odd that he was mere feet from our front door, and didn’t try to visit us. That’s not like him at all, unless he knew he would get a poor reception so took the coward’s way out. So much doesn’t make sense here. I know for certain that NM orchestrated it, but am really wondering who did the deed. She could have easily talked my N-schizophrenic SIL into doing it for her. If the SIL did take part in this, then it takes it to a new level of scary, since she has very serious mental health issues and has threatened me in the past. I actually had the same thought that Bones had. Is it even safe to open the thing.
I do think I’ll put the box out with the trash. I know there’s nothing in there of value, probably not anything even worth donating. Putting it out with the trash is the same as donating, anyway, as we have homeless people who drive by on garbage day and take recyclables and other items of value to them. If this house is being watched, then they can watch their “gift” go to someone who actually wants it.
Thanks so much, everyone, for your input. It really helps to be able to vent to people who “get” what this is like.
JustKathy:
Oh, Twoapenny, did you just threaten your NM with a restraining order, or actually go through with it? I wonder if just threatening them with one would be enough.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: JustKathy on December 17, 2012, 06:45:58 PM ---Oh, Twoapenny, did you just threaten your NM with a restraining order, or actually go through with it? I wonder if just threatening them with one would be enough.
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Hi Kathy,
I just threatened, on the advice of a solicitor. I worded it the way he suggested, bluffed it a little if I'm honest as I hadn't kept all the crap she kept sending so I couldn't have proved it - but she didn't know that and it did stop the majority of stuff coming through.
I do understand what you mean about not wanting to engage with her at all, that makes a lot of sense. Once I'd decided to ignore, I'd just pick things up as they came through the post and the next time I went out I'd drop them in a public bin. I just wanted her out of my life, in every possible way. That helped - knowing I'd done something that would have driven her nuts gave me a lot of satisfaction and gave me control back. So I think anything you want to get out of your life, just dump.
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BonesMS:
--- Quote from: JustKathy on December 17, 2012, 06:43:56 PM ---Thanks guys. I’ve pondered the restraining order, but I keep resisting because it would give NM the ultimate gift. It’s want she wants, for me to engage her and fight back. She would die happy if she could send a copy of a restraining order to every member of my family along with a tear stained letter about her daughter doing this cruel deed to her while she is dying of cancer.
The other thing I'm wondering about is who really dropped this box off. It most likely was my co-Father, who does whatever he is told, even though he is too old to drive anymore. But at 82, could he have done this with such amazing speed and stealth? My dog can hear a pin drop six blocks away, yet never barked while someone pulled up to my house and trespassed into our garage (which is attached and shares a wall with the kitchen). I also find it odd that he was mere feet from our front door, and didn’t try to visit us. That’s not like him at all, unless he knew he would get a poor reception so took the coward’s way out. So much doesn’t make sense here. I know for certain that NM orchestrated it, but am really wondering who did the deed. She could have easily talked my N-schizophrenic SIL into doing it for her. If the SIL did take part in this, then it takes it to a new level of scary, since she has very serious mental health issues and has threatened me in the past. I actually had the same thought that Bones had. Is it even safe to open the thing.
I do think I’ll put the box out with the trash. I know there’s nothing in there of value, probably not anything even worth donating. Putting it out with the trash is the same as donating, anyway, as we have homeless people who drive by on garbage day and take recyclables and other items of value to them. If this house is being watched, then they can watch their “gift” go to someone who actually wants it.
Thanks so much, everyone, for your input. It really helps to be able to vent to people who “get” what this is like.
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