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JustKathy:

--- Quote ---It's difficult because the stuff she writes is so wide of the mark that it makes you want to write back and tell it straight, but that's just what she wants.
--- End quote ---

Exactly! As soon as you reply, it's a huge victory for her. My NM managed to guilt me into responding four years ago when I was first told she had "terminal cancer," and I'll never forgive myself for falling for it. I think the fact that we have to question whether or not they are really ill speaks volumes. Like the boy who cried wolf, you can only fake a terminal illness so many times. One day it's going to be real, and people will question it. It's sad, but they DO they bring this on themselves.

Don't ever fear turning out like her (though I know we all have that fear). One of my better therapists once told me that, to her experience, daughters of Ns are usually very good parents because they go to such great lengths to break the cycle. You aren't like her. You wouldn't be here with us if you were.

Stay strong. I guess if there's any positive in this, it's knowing that one day they WILL die, and the letters and taunting will stop. The day will come when they can't hurt us anymore. Sometimes I hate myself for wishing death on her, but she's not human, she's evil, and evil needs to die.

Kathy

lighter:
Tupp:

I'm hoping you work through this, and find you have no desire to talk about your mum, much less contact her ever again in your life.

I hope you can leave her behind, and head into unchartered waters.

When you get to a certain point, you stop making the same mistakes, not that you stop making mistakes.

You just starting making new ones.

For my part, I think you're better off with a non negotiable NC in place with your mum, but you're the one who has to get through your day, and you're the one who has to make peace with it.

I wonder, what advice would you give to someone else in exactly your situation, Tupp?

Rhetorical, but not really ((((Tupp and son.))))

Lighter

Twoapenny:
Tired, have had a shitty day so will write more tomorrow but for now


I'M RUNNING FOR THE BLOODY HILLS, SHE IS BEYOND HELP AND I WANT HER OUT OF MY LIFE, MY MIND, MY AIR SPACE FOR EVER.  DON'T KNOW WHAT I WAS THINKING BUT I AM NOT THINKING IT ANYMORE!  ARRGGHH!

Thank you all for being there and understanding.  You are all amazing.  Thank you xx

JustKathy:
{{{{{{ Tup }}}}}}

BonesMS:
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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