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My mum is ill
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on February 14, 2013, 04:47:00 AM ---Hi Bonesie,
Maybe in the What Help's? section? A sort of active help thread or something? If others agree and it's alright with Dr G? How are you doing? :)
Hopsie, thank you so much for that article. It's taken me a really long time to read it and digest it. At first I was very defensive about it. I'm not sure if that's the right word but I felt a bit like I was letting people off the hook if I just said to myself 'rejection is protection', like they were getting away with treating me badly and I wasn't doing anything about it. But the more I've read it and thought about it the more I've realised it's absolutely true. I've realised as well that some people I sort of monitor - how long it takes them to call me back, whether they visit me as much as I do them, whether or not they remember my birthday and so on, and with other people I don't pay any attention at all. I realised that there are some people I just don't really want in my life and they're the ones I monitor - it's like I can't just say no thanks, there has to be a reason for it and it has to be their fault. How silly! So I'm working on just letting those people go gracefully and concentrating on the people I like and want to be around. It's a really useful article, thanks for posting it. xx
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Hi, Tupps! Great idea!!!! So far, I'm trying to hang in there one day at a time.
Bones
Twoapenny:
Hi Bonesie,
Well keep on hanging in there! What do you think it should be called (the story thread, I mean, not hanging in there!) xx
Just to update - I don't know any more about my heart yet as I've not had any more tests yet but I've been telling my 'real life' friends and sister and so far only one person has shown any kind of concern or offered to help. We were at swimming tonight and a couple of mums asked how I was. Usually I say 'fine' but I told them what's been going on and both offered to help out straight away and told me to ring them if I wanted to talk. Then another mum came over and said she couldn't help but overhear and to ring her if there was anything she could do. I have just been hanging out with the wrong people! It is really time for me to relegate those who don't care and don't offer and start spending more time with people who are kind enough to want to help - not just because that's what they do, but because I think that's a sign of a good person, generally speaking. Anyway that's my little update so far, hope everyone is doing okay xxx
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on February 16, 2013, 02:52:36 PM ---Hi Bonesie,
Well keep on hanging in there! What do you think it should be called (the story thread, I mean, not hanging in there!) xx
Just to update - I don't know any more about my heart yet as I've not had any more tests yet but I've been telling my 'real life' friends and sister and so far only one person has shown any kind of concern or offered to help. We were at swimming tonight and a couple of mums asked how I was. Usually I say 'fine' but I told them what's been going on and both offered to help out straight away and told me to ring them if I wanted to talk. Then another mum came over and said she couldn't help but overhear and to ring her if there was anything she could do. I have just been hanging out with the wrong people! It is really time for me to relegate those who don't care and don't offer and start spending more time with people who are kind enough to want to help - not just because that's what they do, but because I think that's a sign of a good person, generally speaking. Anyway that's my little update so far, hope everyone is doing okay xxx
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I'm trying in spite of the chaos on my end.
Maybe we can brainstorm what to call the story thread given that it would be therapeutic creative writing. Any ideas you want to toss out to get the process started?
I hear ya about realizing who your REAL friends are versus "fair weather" whatchamacallits. I've had to cut off the "fair weather" phonies when I finally realized they didn't give a rat's ass about anything else except themselves. They only time they condescended to acknowledge or speak to me was only when they wanted to USE me for THEIR CONVENIENCE. :P
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 16, 2013, 03:21:02 PM ---
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on February 16, 2013, 02:52:36 PM ---Hi Bonesie,
Well keep on hanging in there! What do you think it should be called (the story thread, I mean, not hanging in there!) xx
Just to update - I don't know any more about my heart yet as I've not had any more tests yet but I've been telling my 'real life' friends and sister and so far only one person has shown any kind of concern or offered to help. We were at swimming tonight and a couple of mums asked how I was. Usually I say 'fine' but I told them what's been going on and both offered to help out straight away and told me to ring them if I wanted to talk. Then another mum came over and said she couldn't help but overhear and to ring her if there was anything she could do. I have just been hanging out with the wrong people! It is really time for me to relegate those who don't care and don't offer and start spending more time with people who are kind enough to want to help - not just because that's what they do, but because I think that's a sign of a good person, generally speaking. Anyway that's my little update so far, hope everyone is doing okay xxx
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((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm trying in spite of the chaos on my end.
Maybe we can brainstorm what to call the story thread given that it would be therapeutic creative writing. Any ideas you want to toss out to get the process started?
I hear ya about realizing who your REAL friends are versus "fair weather" whatchamacallits. I've had to cut off the "fair weather" phonies when I finally realized they didn't give a rat's ass about anything else except themselves. They only time they condescended to acknowledge or speak to me was only when they wanted to USE me for THEIR CONVENIENCE. :P
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Mmm, I don't know - Writer's Revenge? Fantasy Phamily? Perhaps we should start a new thread and get some ideas? I'm feeling a little foggy headed at the minute so not firing on all cylinders. What do you think?
I realised this morning that I build my whole life from the outside in - I construct what I think my life ought to be like rather than listening to myself and doing/being who I want. I'd noticed that a little bit before, but today it was a real light bulb thing. I don't think from inside my own head? I always start from the outside and work inwards. Weird.
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on February 19, 2013, 01:15:36 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on February 16, 2013, 03:21:02 PM ---
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on February 16, 2013, 02:52:36 PM ---Hi Bonesie,
Well keep on hanging in there! What do you think it should be called (the story thread, I mean, not hanging in there!) xx
Just to update - I don't know any more about my heart yet as I've not had any more tests yet but I've been telling my 'real life' friends and sister and so far only one person has shown any kind of concern or offered to help. We were at swimming tonight and a couple of mums asked how I was. Usually I say 'fine' but I told them what's been going on and both offered to help out straight away and told me to ring them if I wanted to talk. Then another mum came over and said she couldn't help but overhear and to ring her if there was anything she could do. I have just been hanging out with the wrong people! It is really time for me to relegate those who don't care and don't offer and start spending more time with people who are kind enough to want to help - not just because that's what they do, but because I think that's a sign of a good person, generally speaking. Anyway that's my little update so far, hope everyone is doing okay xxx
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((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I'm trying in spite of the chaos on my end.
Maybe we can brainstorm what to call the story thread given that it would be therapeutic creative writing. Any ideas you want to toss out to get the process started?
I hear ya about realizing who your REAL friends are versus "fair weather" whatchamacallits. I've had to cut off the "fair weather" phonies when I finally realized they didn't give a rat's ass about anything else except themselves. They only time they condescended to acknowledge or speak to me was only when they wanted to USE me for THEIR CONVENIENCE. :P
--- End quote ---
Mmm, I don't know - Writer's Revenge? Fantasy Phamily? Perhaps we should start a new thread and get some ideas? I'm feeling a little foggy headed at the minute so not firing on all cylinders. What do you think?
I realised this morning that I build my whole life from the outside in - I construct what I think my life ought to be like rather than listening to myself and doing/being who I want. I'd noticed that a little bit before, but today it was a real light bulb thing. I don't think from inside my own head? I always start from the outside and work inwards. Weird.
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I hear ya!
Jumping into the brainstorming, I'm going to toss out "The Pen is Mightier Than the Sword = The Writer's Revenge!" or "En Garde and Touche' Yon Twits!". I'll probably think of more ideas to toss around.
Bones
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