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My mum is ill
sKePTiKal:
Tupp, here's hoping it's a false alarm...
and that the "heart" that's hurt gets the care and attention it deserves.
Twoapenny:
Thank you everybody for your kind words, I am feeling pretty dreadful but that's partly because of my period which seems to be hell bent on killing me these days, they are going to check a few things out regarding that as well as it's getting a bit beyond a joke! Fortunately the doctor has been very nice and understanding and we all know how much that helps! Will hopefully know more in a few weeks.
I had another card from my auntie this morning, I am not sensing anything unpleasant on her part (other than an unwillingness to deal with the truth!), but the card just says thank you for the one I sent her and offering to meet with my mum and that my mum has been quite ill and in hospital a couple of times and that she hopes myself and my son are well. It does just read as a 'normal' interaction and she's not said anymore about the situation in general, although it does sound as if my mum is genuinely unwell after crying wolf so many times.
I've not heard from my mum, about which I am very relieved, and I've not heard from my sister (her henchlady) either (they usually work like a tag team). As ill as she is, my mum did find the strength to write something unpleasant to my step-sister. I'm wondering if she thinks this is my punishment, her ignoring me in her final days and if she thinks I will be left distraught that I never regained her approval or something like that? I try and think of a normal person's response and then think about hers and I wonder if in her mind she thinks I'll be devastated that she didn't contact me? I'm actually so relieved, I wish I'd never contacted any of them to be honest but I felt like I wanted to give myself a chance to see if I'd got it wrong about the family situation (now I don't think I did).
Anyway - I'm trying to focus on good things and looking after myself. Love Bonesie's idea of a group writing project where we all get to wreak revenge on those who have wronged us. Perhaps we could set up a thread for that to happen?
Thank you for all your thoughts and good wishes, it means a lot to know you care xxx
Hopalong:
Hi Tupp,
Saw this and, thinking about friendships (though this one's about a different relationship), I wondered if it'd strike you too as a good thought.
I liked it for me, really had a moment of "ahhhh".
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/maddisen-k-krown/coping-with-rejection_b_2586145.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women
love
Hops
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on January 31, 2013, 05:58:13 PM ---
--- Quote from: JustKathy on January 31, 2013, 11:13:42 AM ---
--- Quote ---BTW, I borrowed a FUN idea from Tribbles author, David Gerrold.....WRITERS REVENGE!!! Include your enemy in the story and treat them like a RED SHIRT
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I'm doing this right now. I'm almost done with the first draft of my first novel, which has nothing to do with Ns, but has allowed me to insert a bit of revenge. All of my bad characters are being named (first names) after people who did me wrong. I doubt anyone but me will get the references, but that's okay. I feel a whole lot better for it.
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I LOVE IT!!!!! After I Red-Shirted twits in my story, I felt so much better too!!! Maybe a group of us can get something FUN going! :)
Bones
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Should we start a creative thread here, on this Discussion Board, or elsewhere on this website?
Twoapenny:
Hi Bonesie,
Maybe in the What Help's? section? A sort of active help thread or something? If others agree and it's alright with Dr G? How are you doing? :)
Hopsie, thank you so much for that article. It's taken me a really long time to read it and digest it. At first I was very defensive about it. I'm not sure if that's the right word but I felt a bit like I was letting people off the hook if I just said to myself 'rejection is protection', like they were getting away with treating me badly and I wasn't doing anything about it. But the more I've read it and thought about it the more I've realised it's absolutely true. I've realised as well that some people I sort of monitor - how long it takes them to call me back, whether they visit me as much as I do them, whether or not they remember my birthday and so on, and with other people I don't pay any attention at all. I realised that there are some people I just don't really want in my life and they're the ones I monitor - it's like I can't just say no thanks, there has to be a reason for it and it has to be their fault. How silly! So I'm working on just letting those people go gracefully and concentrating on the people I like and want to be around. It's a really useful article, thanks for posting it. xx
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