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lighter:
Tupp:
Being happy draws others to us.
We can't truthfully always BE joyful, but it's a whole life outlook we can practice cultivating, I think.
::nodding::
So, do you believe you would benefit from more adult interaction? Self care time?
What jumped out at me was the possibility of finding another mom or two you can set up routine playdates with, trading off so everyone gets more time to do things away from children.
The possibility of enjoying larger playdates, with mom and 2 or 3 children coming together, also sounds like a way to mix things up and get everyone's needs met, IMO.
In any case, everyone is drawn to joyful positive spirits.
Lighter: )
Hopalong:
WOW, Tupp!
That is just awesomely positive behavior!
Holy moly.
Good going!!!!!!!!!!
hugs
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on January 23, 2014, 02:28:56 PM ---Tupp:
Being happy draws others to us.
We can't truthfully always BE joyful, but it's a whole life outlook we can practice cultivating, I think.
::nodding::
So, do you believe you would benefit from more adult interaction? Self care time?
What jumped out at me was the possibility of finding another mom or two you can set up routine playdates with, trading off so everyone gets more time to do things away from children.
The possibility of enjoying larger playdates, with mom and 2 or 3 children coming together, also sounds like a way to mix things up and get everyone's needs met, IMO.
In any case, everyone is drawn to joyful positive spirits.
Lighter: )
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At the minute I'm finding the whole thing very nice but quite unnerving. I'm sticking with it, but my anxieties have really surprised me. I went out to the pub at the weekend to meet a friend and he has three other friends there, none of whom I'd met before. I found it quite difficult to chat and ended up making one drink last for over an hour because I didn't have the confidence to get up and ask the people standing at the bar to move out of the way. But I went, and I stuck it out even though I found it difficult and I did enjoy it even though it didn't feel easy or natural. I've two dog walks booked for this week (that's with friends who have dogs) and I've vague plans to go and visit another two people although I've not arranged it as we might not get time.
Playdates may come - my son's not massively keen on other kids due to his autism but he's getting better and he is doing more on his own. Tonight he has youth club and I'm going swimming :) Getting there, getting there, getting there :) xx
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on January 23, 2014, 06:13:24 PM ---WOW, Tupp!
That is just awesomely positive behavior!
Holy moly.
Good going!!!!!!!!!!
hugs
Hops
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I love 'Holy Moly' :) Moving forward. Trying to take it as it is and enjoy it at the time. A new way of doing things for me. Still feels a bit strange but I'm getting there :) Thank you :)
lighter:
So glad you're making a change, and finding better ways, Tupp.
Just getting started can sometimes be the hardest part, then doors are opening, and there's less time for stress, kwim?
I think playdate exchanges will happen organically, as you and your son get comfortable with other moms and children, or they won't.
Something to keep in mind.
In the meantime, ask yourself what you really want to do at least once a day.
Try to be mindful about giving to yourself. You give so much to others....
you need attention too; )
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