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sKePTiKal:
Hops, your warning was timely. I've gone on and deleted my thread, as a (admittedly paranoid) precaution. I'll continue, over on Member's Only.

Penny - thanks for the book recommendations! I think Hubs & I were Amazon's first customers.

sKePTiKal:
OH... and I guess I have a question. It was my understanding that the member's stories section was only available to actual "members" of the board and that guests didn't have access. Is this correct?

Just making sure.

Hopalong:
I don't think it's a secure area only members can read. I thought it was just a way of organizing initial narratives that people wanted to write. And then the idea was that rather than have "messages" about those stories stay (and fill up) the Members Stories area, people would keep current dialogue to the Message Board instead.

But Doc G can clarify, I might have it wrong.

I'm kind disappointed to see your thread gone from here, as it's meant a lot to me to be able to read daily updates on what you're all going through...

Would it be too hard to just edit names back to initials and then repost it on the Message Board?

Sorry if I alarmed you. I'm just cautious that way.

love
Hops

Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi Skeptikal,

Hops is correct:  guests can read any board.

Richard

sKePTiKal:
Busy day yesterday. Anxious day, too.

I'm sorry, Hops - things are heating up; I'm not sure which way they're going; so at first, I did just go and edit the names. Then I realized where all this might go... and since a certain party has her computer back, and someone posted bail for her, or they're "trusting her" to make payments, whatever... well, better safe than sorry. And since mostly, the thread is me processing out all my feelings through the quaqmire of the logistics of the situation... I decided at least to make it a little harder to find it. I seem to be the main target of hostilities; have been since at least, last summer. I didn't just jump to an extreme reaction. I am concerned that it's difficult for some folks to read, too.

Thanks, Dr. G - I guess we all sorta believe what we wish was true, sometimes, huh? There WAS a lot of good stuff in that thread about a newbie trying to navigate in an unfamiliar world and system. Learning on the fly, deciding - changing one's mind, charging in and backing off, and the basic emotional math of living and getting through a difficult time.

I have so many notes, and it's so vivid in my mind - I can recreate it, I think.

Yesterday, my hair guru was ill, so I've been working with someone else in the shop who's been there a long time. She and I have sort of clicked - she's quirky, funny, and about my age it turns out. I wasn't going to bare my soul yesterday, until I sat in her chair and it all started to pour out... LOL. From voiceless, to can't shut up - and tell the whole world about it. It's hilarious. But it also feels good - like flipping the bird to shame - and refusing to own shame that belongs to another.

Anyway, turns out earlier that morning, she had a little girl walk-in, with a psycho-mom. Woman was brow-beating the girl about looking like a dork and not being able to take care of her own hair at 13, (WHY is this such a theme with all of these wack-moms?) and the woman was nasty and rude to the stylist, too. The stylist herself has a psycho-mom; when her uncle died they purposefully had a private funeral -- just to exclude her mom... and we were talking about how validating it is, when other people start to agree: yep! so-so is bat-s$%* crazy!! That got her pouring out ideas, and stories, about a book she wants to write... I told her, think about how many people have sat in this chair... and told you things like this or worse... and even better: make up a person and tell your autobiographical stories... your mom will point fingers, not believing people could be like that, and never know it was about her. That's the way they are, these zombie moms...

Anyway... she may end up doing my hair a lot more... just so's we can commiserate and have our own therapy session. I so like where I live these days.

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