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Meh:
I really need to start telling myself about the possible opportunities inherent in certain activities. Like the job-application process. Feel really out of the loop and flow and that my work skills are not that valuable so kind of bummed out about the whole prospect. But really I have to get pumped up about it and try to get excited about something. It's 8:00 AM this day can not end without me putting in some job applications.  :D

Hopalong:

--- Quote ---I don't want the psychological burden or emotional strain of participating in his problems because I have my own.
--- End quote ---


Absolutely clear. And BRAVO for it.
He is an emotional vampire, and your blood is busy sustaining you.

I hear it. And am totally impressed.

So...the absolutely only answer that I see is BOUNDARIES and ASSERTIVENESS.
That is what puts YOU in control. There will be no invasion of your headspace OR your lifespace that you don't permit.

It's tough but I am positive you can do it.
Couldn't recommend more heartily than you seek out assertiveness training...even that free online thing I posted recently.

You are sounding HEALTHY and focused to me, Boat.

Good luck with your day, and one good day at a time is exactly what changes things.
(If you miss one, etc., so what. Just get up the next day.)

I read something recently that hit me: The only thing you have to do is begin.
The next day, also begin. Just keep beginning the thing that needs to be done.

That's really, I guess, what there is no yesterday or tomorrow, only today...really means.

Huh!
Hugs,
Hops

Meh:
Well on my day off I made a mushroom omelette for breakfast.

Meh:
If any of you ever get bored and want to chat then I would give you my email.

Hopalong:
Hi Boat,
I'd offer email in a heartbeat except I've mostly had a "rule" that I only do the board
in general...
don't even like PMing.

Also because you're so interesting I'd check my email 20 times a day.

xo
Hops

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