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Can you help me find a mantra?

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Meh:
Sound advice Hops :)

lighter:
That's so good, Hops!

Lupe... it always is a revelation for me to ask myself what is bothering whomever is disturbing my serenity at any given moment.....

before I react.

I can check in with my observer self, ask WHY that person is having a bad moment, be grateful I'm having a better moment, and avoid allowing others to transfer their aggression to me.

It's a wonderful affirmation......

"Hmmmmm, I wonder why that person is being such a ______________ today?"  Opposed to reacting with negative assumptions, and responses that rise to their level, kwim?

It works in traffic, in public, at restaurants, and with relatives.

BTW, how is your son doing?  I haven 't heard anything about him in a very long while, Lupe, and I'm glad to read you're happy with your job: )

Lighter

sea storm:
I heard one I really felt good about..... I am loved and lovable.....anything else is a lie. Working with adolescents can really batter your self esteem, especially during these times we live in. If your voice is shrill and loud sometimes it means you feel overwhelmed and compassion for yourself is needed.  So the self talk would be..Wow, I feel really overwhelmed and find myself yelling in a voice I don;t want to hear. I need to really be nice to myself and love myself now.

Or... Whoa there Nelly! I am giving these little so and sos way too much power over me. I am letting them press my buttons. So thanks kids but no thanks. I am not taking your invitation to be an yelling adult.

Hope that makes sense.

Sea

Lupita:
Thank you SS.

I am better now with the voice. Now I have to work on my irritation. Irritation provokes the voice to get loud. So, I need not toe irritated. Detached.

sea storm:
very simple one is  breathe in, breath out

Say these words as you breathe in slowly and slowly let your breath out

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