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Meh:
Sigh,

I feel like I have an uptight-thinker-thinker-thinker RUNNING my life and it's not the real me. Making all my decisions, obsessing, planning, trying, trying, trying, control, thinking. Ahhhhh

She is miss doo-doo list (aka to-do list)

She takes over most of my life. She does the same safe things over and over and over.

She probably developed in school:  don't get made fun of, sit still, stay in your desk, answer, answer with the RIGHT answers or else... you are bad.. monitor monitor

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: lighter on February 26, 2014, 03:43:15 PM ---Tupp:

I understand the problem you have with asking for help, then being afraid it'll be used against you.

I solved that problem by seeking help (from a holistic doctor) under a false name.

That way, I knew I wouldn't ever have to deal with fallout, and could go about doing what I needed to get the best possible outcome for me and my children.

You deserve to have that too.

(((((Tupp and son))))))

Do what you need to do.

Lighter



--- End quote ---

That is a stroke of genius.  Am on it :)

Twoapenny:

--- Quote from: Garbanzo on February 26, 2014, 10:41:46 PM ---Sigh,

I feel like I have an uptight-thinker-thinker-thinker RUNNING my life and it's not the real me. Making all my decisions, obsessing, planning, trying, trying, trying, control, thinking. Ahhhhh

She is miss doo-doo list (aka to-do list)

She takes over most of my life. She does the same safe things over and over and over.

She probably developed in school:  don't get made fun of, sit still, stay in your desk, answer, answer with the RIGHT answers or else... you are bad.. monitor monitor

--- End quote ---

G, you have described that so well, someone else constantly planning, monitoring, controlling - if you do this it will be okay, if you do that they won't get you, if you act like this no-one will know - on and on and on.  And like you say, that isn't the real person inside, she's still buried in there somewhere waiting to get out.

fraidycat:
I've often felt that way and have kept a guarded shield of armor on for most of my life. After being treated and judged unfairly it makes sense to protect yourself. That's not crazy, it's smart. It took me a lot of time to trust again. Keeping a distance from toxic people and surrounding yourself with good people that you can trust really helps. No hurry, trust yourself. One nice thing about opening up when your comfortable is the understanding support and empathy you receive...I never thought that was possible. It is. Putting your foot down and standing your ground is the best gift you can give yourself right now.

Hopalong:
Wow.
Every
single
post

on this thread is people saying...I value myself...I am interested in myself...I see what's going on with myself...I am feeling my real feelings...I see where I want myself to grow....

Awe.

Hops

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