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Malingering?
Ales2:
Thank you SeaStorm - very helpful comments.
I am also very moved by what you said that good therapists tell us to listen to your our own voices. Very profound, thank you.
I exhibited good judgement/full financial self sufficiency in my life before, I got derailed, but the competency and skills are still there, buried sometimes by uncertainty, rejection and other BS gets piled on by negative people (NMom, Cult trained Brother) or unhelpful advisors (Business mentor who I decided gives very bad advice). I was much more successful on my own before and none of these people were smart enough to see the boss I had was abusive and now that I am out of there, I have a chance at getting better again.
Thanks for all the comments, I appreciate them very much!
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Ales2 on April 14, 2014, 01:05:50 AM ---Thank you SeaStorm - very helpful comments.
I am also very moved by what you said that good therapists tell us to listen to your our own voices. Very profound, thank you.
I exhibited good judgement/full financial self sufficiency in my life before, I got derailed, but the competency and skills are still there, buried sometimes by uncertainty, rejection and other BS gets piled on by negative people (NMom, Cult trained Brother) or unhelpful advisors (Business mentor who I decided gives very bad advice). I was much more successful on my own before and none of these people were smart enough to see the boss I had was abusive and now that I am out of there, I have a chance at getting better again.
Thanks for all the comments, I appreciate them very much!
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Ales, you sound far more together and sensible to me than your therapist does, to be honest. I agree with Sea completely, I can think back to times when my T must have wanted to shake me and say "For God's sake! Why can't you see this?!" But of course she never did; she focused on my positives (even when I felt there weren't any) and encouraged me to come to my own conclusions and, most importantly, I think, believe in myself. I've always had this massive level of self doubt and constant need for reassurance from other people but she spent a lot of time with me getting me to judge my own feelings and opinions and to decide for myself whether or not I was doing a good enough job.
It sounds to me like you're doing everything you can to get yourself back where you want to be so I'd be inclined to turn a blocked up ear to anyone who wants to tell you otherwise.
I find asking someone what they would do differently can help as often they don't have an answer! Or the answer they have just isn't relevant to your situation.
Ales2:
Thank you Twoapenny, I appreciate all your comments and thoughts. Im getting back to where I need to be and she sure seems bent on derailing that too. I will keep you all posted.
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