Voicelessness and Emotional Survival > Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Still need to work through early trauma
Gaining Strength:
Wow, I have to say this is miserable. The only good thing is that for the first time in my life I now know what went wrong. I have been asking that question for decades and now I understand how it all worked this way.
I do believe I have the tools to change it. Only time will tell. I know why my life has been so miserable. There is always time for things to change. In the midst of the pain it is had to deal with but I plan to get through it. I cannot help but feel the visceral longing for a mother to help me but that also helps me to be kind and nurturing to my child. Occasionally he tells me that I am being critical and I find that I am able to correct myself. That is such a gift. I don't want to spend ONE more summer caught in irons like this one, not one more fall, one more winter, one more spring. I want to be free and I see how very close it all is. The cork is wiggling, I sure wish it would blow.
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Gaining Strength on July 24, 2014, 11:26:16 AM ---I like that bones. Being heard is of course important to those of us who were rendered voiceless.
--- End quote ---
((((((((((((((((((((((((((GS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I hear you!
ann3:
BonesMS & GS,
"The Heiress"(1949) is a good movie, it won 4 Oscars. If you watch it, you'll see how we are not alone and that there have always been parents who narcissistically thrive on crushing their children. It's based on an old story from the 1800s, so this has been going on for a long time. Make sure you have popcorn & kleenex!
Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi ann3,
"The Heiress" is one of my favorites: http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?topic=10146.msg165054#msg165054
Richard
Hopalong:
Point well taken, GS and Bones. I keep veering into advice-giving when I know better!
FWIW, I think in unaware moments I feel frantic to fix
somebody (even unasked) because I can't fix my child.
Not a good way to express that though--I need to go volunteer.
Meanwhile, back to just listening.
Love and support,
Hops
Navigation
[0] Message Index
[#] Next page
[*] Previous page
Go to full version