Daughter in law

[Hopalong]

I believe your pain, Lupita.
Of course. I can't imagine loving anything more on this earth than a grandchild.

Demonizing and belittling her is going to backfire and I so don't wish that for you.

Let loving, mature, older-woman-who-understands-insecurity thoughts come in.

Let yourself stop hating.

Jealousy and competitiveness destroy.

Collaboration and mutual love create...happiness.

I am so so glad you're doing this process.
As GS says, feeling the painful feelings but DOING (the right thing, which is biting your tongue and NOT criticizing) is what changes your life.

love
Hops

[lighter]

Are you OK, Lupe?

Lighter

[sea storm]

Sorry to hear you have a troubling daughter in law.
I am not thrilled about my son in law and at times feel he is ruining my grandchildren. He is wearing my daughter out as he is quite immature and makes impulsive decisions that are reckless, annoying and undermine the stability and joy of the family.
Once I told him off and was banished from their home and it took years to repair the damage. It changed nothing.
Now I try to follow the advice of Al Anon and mind my own business. However, I model respect toward my daughter and him. I don't think he has experienced that before and he is coming around slowly.
I also pray for him as I can just seethe with resentment over his behaviour toward my beautiful daughter. This transforms my feelings for him and brings me back to a more healing and loving place.

You just can't interfere. He is sexually bonded with her and mom has no place in their relationship. He will feel torn between the two of you and this only causes pain for him. Get busy with your own life so you don't focus too much on theirs. I had to and it was not easy. I felt so compelled to protect her but it was not the right thing to do.

Also don't watch too many crime shows as they show these evil women etc who are so far out of the norm

[Gaining Strength]

So beautifully written SeaStorm.