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lighter:
Whew, Hoppy.

What a relief to have that support from soon to be boss.... guy.

It's a clear message that he understands the insanity.

That he'll run the show differently.

Right?

Does he talk to you about it?

hhaw

Hopalong:
Yes, fortunately. Young soon-to-be-boss are on the exact same page regarding Nboss' PD.
Youngboss majored in psychology (before his two MBAs) and married a Norwegian engineer, so he also gets sexism.

It's been a massive relief to have him and the art director, another 30-ish fellow I get along with really well, as companions. Having witnesses even when everything can't be fixed is a real sanity saver.

I'm hanging in FT until age 70 because at that point, your SS income will be about 75% higher for life.

Thanks for asking, things are for now, a lot better.

Hops

sea storm:
Oh no. Deepest condolences. I trust that you are completely right in your intuitions and observations of this undermining, slandering, manipulative bs of the highest water.
You describe the situation so well and i find myself fascinated by the tactics and .... weird insane group dynamic that is run by people who are highly intelligent but cases of severely arrested development.  This sandbox behaviour of playing one person off against the other and talking behind their backs and trying to Bring A Person Down are so crazimaking.

You must not blame yourself or think that they are right in the slightest way. There is something so unfair about this situation as you are the person I would vote as the least likely to be worthy of put downs in the workplace.   When you say you are challenged attentionally because some twit is noisy in the workplace this is  not good. The emphasis is on the wrong syllable. God, I know this kind of shenanigans so well.  A noisy, attention seeking workmate is surely behaving immaturely in the workplace.  Getting chastized for a normal, healthy reaction is so toxic. If you need ear phones maybe they could chant the truth to you all day long. ie. you are beautiful, exceptional, funny, delightful and totally loveable. I love you, anyway. Oh yes, you are very intelligent and insightful. It is a bloody travesty that one of our special  angels is getting the narcissistic treatment at work.

In order to not bust a gasket I hope there are things that work for you. Detachment, not buying into the slander=backstabbing, extreme humour and role playing.  Venting.

I notice you are not one to stamp up and down, throw tantrums, verbal darts.  I hope you can do a bit of this uncivilized but cathartic behaviour.  There is a toll to one's health in being a target. And in your case sort of a target of a few deranged souls.

Please feel free to keep me up to date on this ongoing problem. For both our sakes.

As for losing.........  You did not lose, be sure of that.   You have that aweful feeling of loss of control after the rug is pulled out from under you. It is real and a siren needs to go off at such times announcing...... Oh this is what it feels like to be the target of a disordered mind.
You haven't lost.... you haven't even played the game.   You are such a winner except you are in a crummy, stupid workplace environment that is socially haywire.

 Tons of love and blessings to you.

Back in the saddle Hops.


Sea storm

Hopalong:
Aww, Sea. I love you back, girl.
Why do you live so far awaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay?

I'm really better. Colleague allies make all the difference, even though we have to whisper or "chat" our secret solidarily messages.

Nboss is off on other tangents. Seems he relieves his tension by attacking me and now we're "good friends" again. I keep wondering
when it might occur to him that someone who smiles brightly (on demand) at him every day just a few days after he's sliced and diced
her just might...possibly...not be behaving authentically...

But then I realize he really doesn't see, doesn't get, and can't possibly. Nism blinds one like that. So I "bless him" (sometimes) and let it go.

Fortunately for me, he's got work to do that mostly keeps him out of my space.

I'm okay. But I love you (and all-a y'all) for perceiving how it felt and saying to me that you get it.

Sometimes, that's actually enough to make it better!

Much love and gratitude,
Hops

sea storm:
glad to be helpful.  Still Screaming like a crow, flapping behaviour, snivelling loudly with multiple hankies sounds good. Obviously, I am no a stoic. Nor do i have to hang on to this miserable, bottom feeding, life sucking job.
there just must be some way to turn this into lemonade. I am not kidding. You are incredibly articulate and observant, able to read body language from far distances. I know it used to feel to me like i was talking about dirty underwear when I would confess how bad things were at work my muliple teacher bosses. People looked at me like I was crazy so that I soon learned to clam up. Big problem.   
What i am stumbling around trying to say is that it is very welcome to me to hear your story, complete with nuances and hyperbole.  i think at some point, maybe further along, we could laugh maniacly about it and not give the bastards such power.  It is no small thing to take power back from such masters. Nice people don't even have that gene.

Lets talk more about this.

Loads of love, Still screaming and snivellling

Sea

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