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Hopalong:
What Ann said!
Mega dittoes!
YAY, TUPP!
:D :D :D :D :D
love
Hops
lighter:
Yaaaaay Yay, Tupp!
I'm so channeling your energy right now! Yay for you, and for me.
I also get what you said about your clothing choices. And you know what? I think I'm just really really comfy in the old soft clothes without shape, that I can work in, and not care too much about if I get paint on them or they get ripped.
I think a bit about style, but it's more abstract. I might start buying new bright clothes, but I don't have much desire right now, and what desire I do have is pretty fleeting.
You keep it up.... I enjoy living vicariously through your wardrobe purchases.
About the letter from the hospital. At some point you notice when you don't have the tremendous chemical dump triggered by things that usually throw you into turmoil. You notice you're steadier. You notice something changed. I've experienced that too. I'm thinking its a good thing: )
Lighter
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: ann3 on March 07, 2016, 07:19:56 PM ---Hi Tupps,
I meant to post to you yesterday about your new attitude:
--- Quote ---I have been a bit brave in my efforts to stop concerning myself with other people's feelings all the time.
So I've not responded, I want to take some time to think about how I feel, whether or not I want to say anything more and just try not to leap in with the intention of making her feel better and swallowing my own feelings.
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Then, I see today's posts:
--- Quote ---I've not responded, I just wanted some time to think about how I feel and what I want, and I think what I've realised is that this place and these people have served their purpose or come to the end of their shelf life or however is best to describe it, and it's time to move on.
Today has been a bit of a revelation for me, I have actually started being honest and stating my feelings and I can't believe how differently that makes me feel!
My sister rang early this morning; I ignored the call, still feeling that I didn't want to speak to her until I had a better understanding in my own head.
And I think now if any of them get in touch over the next few days I am going to say I just don't want to at the minute. I'm not going to put a brave face on it or cover it over, I'm going to try and be real and let them deal with how that makes them feel - not to be vindictive but I've got enough on my plate without dealing with other people's feelings and emotions.
I do feel very clear headed about it all, usually this would be weighing me down a bit but by saying what I felt I feel like I've really got a burden off my chest and it feels very nice
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Awesome, Tupps!!! YAY! Congrats!!!
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Ha ha, thanks Ann, it did feel good, I should have done this years ago! Feel tired today, I think there's been a bit too much excitement over the last few days! We've got a fairly quiet week this week and I've ordered a book about eating for energy; I really need to clean up my diet and I'm struggling a bit so I'm hoping this will help :)
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: lighter on March 07, 2016, 11:27:02 PM ---Yaaaaay Yay, Tupp!
I'm so channeling your energy right now! Yay for you, and for me.
I also get what you said about your clothing choices. And you know what? I think I'm just really really comfy in the old soft clothes without shape, that I can work in, and not care too much about if I get paint on them or they get ripped.
I think a bit about style, but it's more abstract. I might start buying new bright clothes, but I don't have much desire right now, and what desire I do have is pretty fleeting.
You keep it up.... I enjoy living vicariously through your wardrobe purchases.
About the letter from the hospital. At some point you notice when you don't have the tremendous chemical dump triggered by things that usually throw you into turmoil. You notice you're steadier. You notice something changed. I've experienced that too. I'm thinking its a good thing: )
Lighter
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Thanks Lighter, yes, completely see what you mean about clothes, for years our lives have been very practical, lots of paint and glue and being out in the woods and searching for bits of Lego in odd places so comfort and alright to ruin stuff definitely the order of the day. Will be hanging on to some of those clothes as still necessary but I do feel like I want a second wardrobe now, one where I can dress up and be Tup rather than mum.
Re the letter, my reaction was definitely so much less than it would have been even six months ago. I drafted the request to have the errors amended at the weekend and then sat down yesterday to finish it off and already it feels more like someone has just phrased something badly and made assumptions when they should have checked facts. I think people who've not been falsely accused don't realise how much power words can have and how throw away comments and poorly worded prose can be used in such a negative way by someone with malign intentions. But yes, there's definitely been a shift there, it just doesn't all feel as personal anymore?
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on March 07, 2016, 08:33:34 PM ---What Ann said!
Mega dittoes!
YAY, TUPP!
:D :D :D :D :D
love
Hops
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Thanks, Hops! It's funny how little things can make such a difference :) x
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