NEW JOB!

[Gaining Strength]

Very happy for you Hops.  Well deserved too.

[Ales2]

 

This is wonderful news Hops! Well deserved!

I look at this way - you always worked hard and kept your head up and took the high road! That is smart and practical! You are in an excellent position to say "I can work well/collaborate/manage/fill in the blank with anyone and get results"  and actually have the experience, skills and tenacity for that to be a complete and true statement. Take confidence in that!

On the "woo" side, what you did was "passing the test" and "blooming where you were planted" and you did it well. God/The Universe/Karma/Synchronicity/Law of Attraction, whatever you choose to call it/believe in, recognizes that.  You didn't quit, or crumble or turn malicious or manipulative and thus, good things came your way.

You made my day as well - I came here just to see how much progress I have made and was happy to see you have moved on as well! Lets hope 2016 brings good to us all here at the Board!

All the best to you Hops and everyone here!

[Hopalong]

Oh bless y'all. Every one. And long-missed GS and Ales, thank you
for chiming in! Tupp, Boat, Lighter...your good wishes warm my heart. Thank you.

Ales...you give me way too much credit, though. Though I mostly
contained it, I was swallowing so much malice toward Nboss that
by the end I felt as though it really did sicken and change me.

Still. I am rebuilding my sense of security, shaking off the PSTD (well,
lower-case ptsd, to not disrespect vets) of spending 8 years with him.
I will start liking myself better after a time of dealing with benign folks.
The oldsters and my coworkers too.

I really do think I'm beyond Nboss' reach now. But I'm not eager for
him to hear about my new job, as I wouldn't put it past him to
try to undermine it. Somehow I think even his special powers
don't reach that far, though. I'm respected in the community (and
my face and voice are still all in the TV ads, which is funny...people
mention it to me all the time--he hasn't replaced me yet!).

Comforted myself today by reading about cults, so often headed
by Ns. And I realize that I really did see him for what he was, and
fought back against the mind games as hard as I could. Not one
soul (save my officemate, and even he's cut me off for now) from
my workplace of all those years has dared reach out to me. (Nboss
made it clear "there would be no benefit" in staying in touch.) He
rules by fear, manipulation and distortion and I am so so so well
rid of him.

Thanks for all the support and your congratulations, which mean
so much to me after how you've all listened to my victim bleating
for so long.

love
Hops

[Ales2]

Hops - I know you feel like you complained and were victim bleating, but sometimes the solutions seem simple, but the feelings are hard. Or the insecurity of the situation wears us down and into fear mode which inhibits good decision making. You made good decisions. Take the credit - complaining on this board is a good outlet and a constructive one. If you were malicious, you could have twittered about evil NBoss.

Your description of "swallowing malice" intrigues me... I wonder if there is any way to deal with that problem. I can relate to feeling permanently changed or defeated by these people and making it harder to move on... Wish I had an answer to that one.  I know some new-age people talk about "cutting cords" and letting things go... but how does one actually do that besides changing jobs and phone numbers or similar things in the external world. What about the internal world?

Anyway, glad to hear you are moving forward. Enjoy your new place and make it a success!

[lighter]

Victim bleating?

It was survival bleating.

When I think back on the creepy meetings he called, the way he wanted you to expose yourself emotionally to that pet sycophant of his..... how he handicapped you, sabotaged you, assigning himself head pubah mediator over everyone, like it or not.... 

honestly, it gives me chills.

And you stood up to him.  Amazing.

You did that, and you talked about it here so you didn't implode. 

No bleating about it.

You vented, and coped, and overcame.

I'm glad you're out of there, Hops.

Lighter

[Hopalong]

Just want to apologize for fading nearly away (TEMPORARILY!) and posting such short comments when I do pop in.

This is about my first few weeks of New Job, which is overall feeling wonderful...wonderful!
But I tend to be tapped out at night (learning curve and all that).

Lighter, thank you.

And everybody...sending much love and promises of future long-windedness!

xxoo,
Hops

[Twoapenny]

Hops,  you are a success!  I just luv you...

Yep, second that x

[Hopalong]

Thank you, TT!
I'm eager to try that with just one concern:
My hair is SO pure white that it absorbs even the tiniest trace of color, and I wonder if it'd yellow my hair.
(I've bought what I assumed were wise products, natural oil based...and boom, yellow pretty soon. Olive oil for one...duh.

Would distilled white vinegar work as well topically? I could take the natural ACS (with the "mother") internally though.

Hugs and thanks,
Hops

[lighter]

TT:

Thanks for the pointer. 

Lighter

[sKePTiKal]

This vinegar is a home remedy for a lot of things. And yes, there are likely some active enzymes in the mother that are the real secret. I think the vinegar fits into the theory about alkaline-acid balance in our bodies. (This gets a little woo-woo, so bear with me...)

If you consider that things like brain function and heart function are kind of "electrical systems"... you could see how the balance of acid-alkaline fits into being part of the "battery" balance. When a battery's innards are no longer balanced, it corrodes. Well, the "input" port into our bodies for these kinds of systems, is our stomach. And a bit of ACV, this time of year particularly, can help with that allergy tickle at the back of your throat, keeps the stomach juices regulated and in balance (yogurt being the other half of that equation)... which in turn provides the fuel to regulate a lot of the other systems in the body.

We now return you to your regular programming....   

[Hopalong]

Well, fortunately for me, my new job is amid loads of people in their 80s and 90s, so ain't nobody but me staring at MY head for glimpses of scalp...

 

xo
Hops

[Gaining Strength]

Hops. It sounds like you are the youngster in the crowd.  I hope for great reward for you.

Btw, I loves Braggs as well.  Love your helpful explanation Skepikal!  But consider adding one more supplement. - primrose oil helps tremendously with hair loss.

Love to you.

[sea storm]

It took a big push from the universe and a wild moment of being a lion to get you out of your soul destroying situation at work. I think you were very brave and crossed the abyss over some harrowing seas full of uncertainty and self searching. Bravo! Also reminds me of a big, ole eagle when his wings get drenched, sitting high up in a fir tree with his wings down and fanned out. Temporarily stalled because of rain and wet and cold. Very difficult circumstance for an eagle and when there is a break in the clouds and they get a chance to dry out their feathers, they are  airborn again. Only a change in the weather will help.

you are not a whiner. Stop that. You shared a difficult part of your life and thanks for that. And what a happy ending to that chapter.


Lots of love
Sea storm

[Hopalong]

Hooo, boy. Here it is:

I'm back to square one. The director (of the Assisted Living and/or retirement home), a dragon lady of about 75, decided not to keep me. Every manager (5) told me they've spoken to the board about her. But for now, she still has the power and that's what she decided. (Offered thin excuses that didn't remotely pass muster, per the HR person. The reality was, she's hyper controlling...and perceived me as a threat. Admissions procedures were complex and she refused to train me--wanted me to figure it all out from chaotic files and really ghastly existing records. No procedure manual, no nothing. And multiple legal and medical ramifications that she wouldn't explain, for every form (some of which were incoherent, redundant...or lost.)

I just about had finished updating and streamlining the process, but as to the marketing side, she wouldn't even allow me to manage a print ad (which I've done hundreds of)...so I don't think it could've worked, as long as she's there.

Long boring tale and a real disappointment--I did love the place. But...I am a determined person. I can, in fact, retire at the end of the month on bare-survival social security, if I want to. But I'd rather keep going until 70 (you earn way more SS for life if you postpone it). We'll see. I'm nothing if not resourceful.

You guys are SO patient.

love,
Hops

[lighter]

Oh, Dear....

this isn't good.  Why do they keep the crazy people, and let the good ones go?

Once I did designed and produced a POP display for Hitachi Power Tool.  One of the people involved (not the boss who hired me) was a nutter, combative, ridiculing, and abrasive.  EVERYONE involved knew what she was, but there she was.... creating discord everywhere she went, and getting paid for it.

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you, Hops.

You'll find something else.... likely better.

::nodding::

Lighter