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My D in hospital
Hopalong:
Thanks, (((((((((Boat))))))))).
I appreciate it...though at 35, she's gettin' long in the tooth for those teenage things.
love,
Hops
debkor:
Hops,
Your daughter may not speak or contact you. That doesn't stop you from loving her unconditional. Impossible. She has made choice (at the present time) no contact. Even if she never contacts you ...she's so deeply loved by you.
And that's what it's all about.
She has her own choices and her own life (and what she choose to do with it) she does not have the choice to make you stop loving her.
You didn't let her go. She let her self go.
Keep loving. I wish your heart peace. You a good mother.
And I hope she finds herself one day back to your loving arms.
Deb
Hopalong:
Thank you much, Deb...
You just helped me realize that I've had an odd sense of shame about loving her "against her wishes" so I've tried to suppress thoughts of her sometimes.
But you're right. That's goofy.
I don't seek to think about her at length and stir up the grief but I don't seek to NOT think about her either. I'd like loving and calm thoughts of her to come and go any time they wish because...I continue to love. She continues to suffer (I include obsessive blaming in "suffer" as well as bipolar that may not be managed well). One day perhaps (and perhaps not) .... her suffering may be reduced enough to think/feel differently.
Life is long. Love is patient.
love
Hops
Gaining Strength:
I love what you and Debkor have said. It is so touching. I will hold that lovely image of your love enveloping your lost daughter. And I see that love you have for her coming back to envelope you as well, making a complete package Hops.
Hopalong:
Oh (((((((((GS)))))))))).
Thank you.
love
Hops
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