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My D in hospital
teartracks:
If she were dangerously ill, she probably wouldn't be tweeting, so that's a good sign. I admire your resolve and strength to carry on when On is so heavy. Blessings...& hugs.
sKePTiKal:
Well Hops, since there are so many unknowns about why she's there... I think you need that 10 ft pole to keep yourself away from guessing the reason. Either break your promise not to contact her and ask directly for information... or occupy your mind enough with something strong enough to keep it engaged, that you don't wander down those what-if trails. It's hard because of that instinct to do the mom-thing... but it could just be something relatively minor.
Hopalong:
Her bills are sent to her stepmom's address (my D hides her actual address from creditors) and step-mom thinks it's orthopedic. My D has had scoliosis her whole life, not extreme but not operable as far as we were told when she was young. (When she began to rage at me as a young adult when the bipolar kicked in, she accused me of not "getting her surgery" that she needed. I had never been told by any doc that she could have it or in fact needed it.)
I don't even know what she is in for, actually. It might not have been orthopedic. Might have been female problems, which stepmom said she mentioned on Facebook.
No idea.
But Skep, I'm not breaking my commitment to respecting her NC. Whew. Was an impulse but very brief one.
Thanks, everyone. I hope you know how much your voices help.
love,
Hops
Hopalong:
Thank you, WiseChild.
I really am okay.
It's in the back of my mind and there's monologue going on in my head about comforting her and my empathy and sorrow that she's suffered some kind of procedure. Or suffering anything at all.
But otherwise I really have let her go, mostly. I have no choice.
That's what NC does. ("Mothering Again" is the title of the thread where I've told this story, fwiw...)
Thanks for your empathy, it's much appreciated.
Hops
Meh:
Awww. She is probably Okay. It's nice that you care.
It kind of reminds me when I was a teenager and just barely noticed my mother, it's was a developmental state/stage for me I assume.
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