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Hypnosis and the 20%
Ales2:
I went to a consultation with a hypnotherapist yesterday. Very nice guy, but not the right fit.
I picked him based on his blogs and his POV on achievement and moving on in life. Problem for me was that he wanted to get too much into "core issues" which while maybe a therapeutically correct direction, I was hoping for a more superficial approach. Sounds odd to want the superficial approach, but I did not want to re-open old wounds, felt I'd done enough of that. I had hoped he could focus more on the 20% obstacles I deal with that have consistently derailed me from achieving the 110% life I want. I was hoping for help with productivity (he specializes in overcoming procrastination), completions and breakthroughs (from renting to owning, from single to married, from writer to author, debt to investing, anxiety to peace etc) .
The 20% are my own shortcomings, of my own doing and some are my responsive wounds from an invalidating, NMother, which is assertiveness, staying small to be accepted in her skewed world, people pleasing - sometimes that works, sometime a trap that causes other problems) relationship avoidance when dealing with certain kinds of people etc. Attracting bosses who marginalize, belittle and deprive me of opportunities like NMother did.
I had no expectation of him understanding the NMother dynamic, just the obvious issues or symptoms like people pleasing and assertiveness and subconscious reactions to toxic or belittling people. I didn't think hypnosis would change some of these core issues, just maybe alleviate anxiety with things like being more assertive or staying small, so I could move on.
I hope that makes sense.
Hopalong:
Ales,
If you read this book you can do it yourself. At no cost.
The key is Chapter 9, "Autosuggestion." For the first time, I understood why hypnosis works.
https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Your-Subconscious-Mind/dp/0139614826/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467306870&sr=8-1&keywords=the+wisdom+of+your+subconscious+mind
I found it absolutely amazing. It's now 40 years old, but I believe not dated...
love,
Hops
Ales2:
Thanks Hops for this suggestion.
My guess is that for me, part of success in a therapeutic process comes from validation from another human being, someone I trust and respect that wants to see me do well. Thus, do-it-yourself self improvement doesn't have the same effect. I can believe in myself to about 80% but when constantly barraged with the remaining 20% of negativity I crumble.
Hopalong:
I understand, Ales. You deserve validation and support.
I was hoping a DIY approach might help...but maybe this therapist is the one! And hypnotheraphy was a lifesaver for me (with a psychologist who specialized). Good luck.
hugs
Hops
Ales2:
Hi Hops- You might have misunderstood my post - I appreciate your book and suggestions, was just stating the reason why I think I have bad therapy experiences in the past.
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