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lighter:
I'm glad you have pt work brewing, Hops.

In the meantime...... try to enjoy the time you spend in bed.  Really sink into it, and roll around happily snugging into the next perfectly comfortable spot. 

Light

Hopalong:
Thanks, guys. Really am grateful you're willing to listen to the step by step as I ease into this new way of making my way, so to speak.

Today was nice--first meeting with the lonely (but blunt and open, which I actually appreciate) 80 y/o woman. We took her car and drove out of town a little way to deliver her tax info to the woman who does it, then on the way back she craved a pizza and though she had in mind the usual chain in a horrid mall-like location, I persuaded her to try a small detour to a local place (which I knew was good)...and she enjoyed it a lot. Devoured half a small pizza, talked a lot, and encouraged me to enjoy a beer (which I did! but paid for myself). Took her home and on my own time, walked her little dog...who is desperate for exercise, she's part whippet.

We enjoyed each other's company and it felt like a good situation. Said farewell smiling. I'll go there weekly for a couple hours and I know it'll help her. And, her check helps me. Boy, did she have a very painful life...such stories. Glad I could listen and be a set of compassionate ears.

My original elder-employer drove today and was very proud of himself. I'm still going to talk about the ethics of it with the assoc. minister but for now, I've released it. I will be haunted forever if he kills somebody though.

Tomorrow I go to work for the new couple. Looking forward to that too.

I actually think this work is going to work! My hourly pay is quite solid and it's NOT writing about stuff I don't care about to make other people rich. It's just about people.

(GeNt just called me because he often misses calls and thinks it was me...which it wasn't. Told him, "That's okay...drink some water, and I'll see you tomorrow.")

 :)

Hops

sKePTiKal:
I think older people are really really hungry for connection with others. Not "needy", or having someone "do for them"... but someone who will listen, just be there and are open to their humanity; acknowledgement. They'll all have their different habits about it I guess.

You might be doing research for another book here, Hops. I'll bet they all have stories to tell - and they'll appreciate you haven't heard them 10 times yet.

lighter:
OK....

I'm havin'a thought here.....

STAY in bed in the morning,
but WRITE.

::nodding::

And congrats on getting work lined up.  That was quick: )

Lighter

Hopalong:
Things are much better with my work.
GeNt is now driving himself (aaggh) so I'm working for him about 8 hours a week rather than the 20 preceding his heart procedure. I'm sorry about less money --still looking for new clients and getting the occasional one-off job--but things are calmer for now. (He IS 92 so things will change in time.) And, it's also better because I have found a better balance of assertiveness (or avoidance) when he's being pissy. I gradually sense a kind of affectioN coming from him that I didn't perceive before (and in my own way, I have some fondness for him as well). When I come while he's out he complains. When I come when he's there he complains. Better to have him miss me, as then he's nicer the next time!

It's likely because right now I'm the most reliable person in his life who deals with his reality (not his posturing). He's exhibiting more tolerance and I've had more practice deflecting some of his nonsense. I've also learned that just accepting his irrationality at times makes more sense than debating it.

I also have a new LOVELY client twice a month...an 80 y/o old woman with lots of medical issues and pain, but who still has all her marbles, and is just lovely. Motherly, kind, considerate to a fault. She is a pleasure to be around. And, a few other calls are coming in, sometimes for just a session or two.

I'm still at half the hours I need to feel financially safe but I do have leads...a friend is going to introduce me to her friend at a ritzy facility, and we'll ask if she'd pass my flyer to any friends there she hears expressing a need for some help, etc. Another friend just suggested today that I take my flyer to the office of a wealthy church nearby. I never thought of that but it's a great idea.

So, with spring, and possibilities, I'm feeling pretty good! Sleep is better, health is better.

And just in case I've never mentioned this....I HAVE THE CUTEST DOG IN TOWN. Did I mention that? Are you sure? Probably forgot to tell you, silly me. SERIOUSLY. She is so cute she stops traffic! Well, pedestrian traffic.

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