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lighter:
Hops:

Every time I attempt to respond to your thoughtful post I do go on and on about the harm I've encountered through Western medicine, and the doctors who "practice" it.

I do go on to explain how Eastern and Energy based medicine has done us no harm, if they haven't helped, and they have helped in almost every case.  If they haven't helped improve our health, they've provided information that's helpful. 

I appreciate MDs who practice integrative medicine... they seem to focus on establishing health in their patients and sustaining it rather than treating symptoms without zero care for what caused the problem in the first place.  I don't appreciate that particular kind of medicine.... treating symptoms, that is. It makes zero sense to me.

Since my friend had titanium plates installed in his face last week, I'm reminded that Western medicine has it's place.  It might be the new kid on the block, but it's sparkly and gives us pain killers which are necessary when we go through surgery, like the two C sections I had.  I've never finished a painkiller prescription, btw.  I don't understand why I have to beg for them when I'm being scheduled for surgery and male addicts are given prescriptions, without asking.  Is it because I'm female, and know I'll need pain killers after surgery and ask for them proactively?  It's confusing, but that's been my experience since I was a teenager having my wisdom teeth out, which was a four "dry socket" nightmare.
 
I told myself I wouldn't start typing out examples, but apparently I can't help myself.  I'll stop there, and crack on without erasing. 

I tend to view Western docs as the mechanics who fix humans after they've been driven over their toxic load edge without any thought as to WHY they were heading toward the ledge in the first place.

Shouldn't that question be addressed?  And, if the answer is YES, shouldn't it be the priority in medicine, and considered BEFORE disease sets in?  I know there's not much money in prescribing kale to patients, but prescribing drugs that kill and break us down seems an unwise approach, IME.

Being proactive would begin with nutrition, and.....

::slapping forehead::.
::huge sigh::

Surely there's a balance to be struck?

Tupp and Hops, I will just say paperwork does suck, and I'm never happy about doing it. 

Removing the legals from our living space was a tremendous relief.  Having clean  desk, floor, and chair space in the office feels like a luxurious addition to the house. We seek it out, roll around in it, create, play and work in it.  I can honestly say.... it's better than Christmas. 
Lighter

Hopalong:
I hear that, Lighter...totally agree.
I worked for the publishers of Prevention for a few years and it really IS the point.

Big hugs and back to happy in the moment! Hope you are.
You're so good at working very hard at coming back into that present balance.

We roil, we work it through, we calm. Rinse and repeat....

hugs
Hops

sunblue:
Hi All:

Clicked through because I thought this was such a relevant topic.  The idea of "mindfulness", trying to make the most of the current moment rather than worrying about the past or the future is a much buzzed about concept these days.

About a week ago, my sister-in-law--who is a decent but a pit pollyannish person--texted me and was clearly excited about an Oprah program she was watching featuring two very well-know motivational speakers.  They were both touting the concept of "living in the moment".  The catch phrase, "Live in the moment" has long been my SIL's motto.  Her only child--my niece--who dutifully adopts everything my SIL and brother believe, even got a tattoo with the phrase "Live in the moment".  They kind of pat themselves on the back that this is their life motto.

However, I tried to point our to her in her excitement that it is easy to live in the moment when most of your moments are trauma- and pain-free as her life has been.  But when you deal with an illness or condition like depression or NPD...or chronic loneliness or betrayal and rejection....or abuse and disrespect in the workplace...or a combination of these things during your whole life..."living in the moment" is not a great place to visit.  It is hard to see the joy in the moment of simply living when your life...and the moment that is your life....is characterized by these negative situation.  If, however, you are like her, and have a life filled with joy and family and friendship and lack of life challenges to face...then it is much simpler to think you can just enjoy and appreciate every moment.  She refused to accept or get this....as do most people who tout mindfulness.  I am not at all rejecting the value of doing so...of trying to make every moment count in life, of trying to appreciate the moment you are in, rather than dwelling on the negative.  I'm just saying it is not realistic to say that individuals can do this equally when their "moments" are so very different.  Unfortunately, those whose moments in life are generally characterized by positive experiences tend to define those whose aren't as "negative", "pessimistic" or having a bad attitude. 

These motivational speakers never really seem to address the reality of their "mindfulness" approach to life.  By all means, everyone should spend time each day being grateful for what blessings they have.  But, failing to acknowledge that mindfulness is difficult for those whose lives are not fairytales, is unfair and unrealistic.  I think it is another example of the "haves" not willing to really see the pain and unfairness of others' lives and blaming them for it instead of acknowledging that had fate taken a different turn, they might have been us.

Sunblue

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