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Heist on Something....
sKePTiKal:
LOL... "frontier woman".... I can imagine he'd be a little afraid of me then.
Hopalong:
Unspeakably terrified, is my guess.....
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
lighter:
::waving::
Hi Hope. I'm glad you're feeling better about the B. My one comment on the restaurant ordering .. just tell him you've got your own order. He's very kind to offer advice, but he may focus on his own with gusto.
I f he continues, maybe tell him you feel a bit like a kindy Gartner.....use humor, but make your point perhaps?
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
IMO, the best thing about trying to use humor, is that it defuses OUR reactions, that are referencing old wounds from a different time/place and people. Therefore avoiding a problem in the first place.
It's a truly difficult thing to deal with. We can only practice at it, I think. Stress, new emotional pain, fear, and simply being tired contribute to a lack of ability to practice. Yes I know, we're are who we are because of what we've been through. But other people are exactly the same. And if we let ourselves get triggered by new people, in new circumstances... exactly as we did in the past under different conditions... well, it's deja vu time and we get to relive the same emotional indigestion.
I continue to work on this a lot. I see Hol trying to, as well. Hopsie is surely doing the same. When it works to keep us from reliving the old reaction - that's as perfect as it gets. It's kinda like an on/off switch.
Hopalong:
I do enjoy fantasizing about if not pirate on tablecloth...maybe other fun rejoinders?
Got one!
Dear ole B starts explaining me the menu, like a helpful boyfriend does....so I say, Oh, if only I could read....
:lol:
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