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lighter:
Thanks, Hops.
I continue to be a sucker for hope.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
It's great that you can all work on this together, Lighter. I know I find it hard to not 'do' for son in many respects. A part of me still thinks of him as a child that needs to be kept safe. To a certain extent I suppose part of being a parent is that our kids will always be children in some way to us - I don't think that changes. So it's lovely that you're able to work back and forth with the kids and see what needs doing and what can be left - even with your arse in the air :) Lol.
Boundaries are difficult with kids. You make all their decisions when they're little, then let them make some choices, then give them more freedom - it's hard to know where the lines are and whether you're helping or hindering at times. I know I struggle with it. I struggle with walls, as well. Lol. Let us know how the next class goes, it will be interesting to hear if there's a different perspective or if they're all singing from the same sheet. xx
lighter:
Tupp::
I can't wait to compare notes with the parenting coaches either. At a point I'll choose one, and ride her through this phase.
I felt better after that first session.
Lighter
lighter:
I have....
The Cold, as youngest dd used to say.
So miserable.
This morning I woke up listening to something rattle around in my bronchial tubes.... I breath out.... something followed it, and rattled and rattled and rattled, like a cranky knome waking from a deep sleep. Honestly.... my mouth was a speaker.
Yesterday I finally broke down and went to Sona Clinic, which rocks. LOVE LOVE LOVE the folks there. Official dx is upper respiratory viral infection, but I went in bc it feared pneumonia. He said it's nothing to do with my lungs, but looked shocked while attending to my ears, and nose, which weren't bothering me much frankly.
He wanted to unplug my ears, and I typically ONLY see an ENT guy for that these days, bc they have the tools, don't hurt me, and get the job done in seconds, not painful wet loud minutes, which is what it turned into.
This set up, a squirt bottle with tube attached, and insert for ear, (never seen THAT one before) started out with very cool water, which I felt would just solidify things, and make the job harder. There was a lot of back and forth. OK... I'm skipping to the end.... he'd pull the trigger, softly at first, then harder and harder till it felt like he was making a ticked off hole in one inner ear spot, and finally got ears cleared. There wasn't much IN there, IME, but doc seemed to think it was necessesary.
The entire rest of the day my brain felt like it was being stuck with pins... I was weepy, which is so so rare, and actually cried over sushi, then into a shopping trip for youngest dd's trip to Japan today. Poor dd16.... such a lovely spirit, and very comforting, which drove me nuts bc I don't want her to have this terrible cold during her trip!
I think the whole weepy thing was about feeling afflicted the past 13 years, then this very real affliction I'm trying to shield everyone from... lots of alcohol wipes, and reminders not to touch faces..... then past the Build a Bear shop...memories..... I saw a terrible article about a man harming his fiance's dog, which lead to such trauma dog had to be put down, then our waiter was so self deprecating, you just KNEW someone made him feel bad for being alive his entire childhood, and there was no calming down until I took advil, which calmed the pain, and damn, yesterday was just a very hard day, ending at midnight.
So glad yesterday is over.
DD at airport by 4:30am, with a stop at Walmart for last minute things. I think she's prepared, well packed, which she did on her own, and ready for this adventure.
She takes amazing care of her skin.... every single night, and morning. She's soft as a baby, honest. I was amazed at all she had to pack, in special little glass blue bottles for travel.... like a tea ceremony..... where did she get that self care routine from? Just glad she has it.
AC isn't blowing cold in the house.
All 6 tons of rocks are down, and look great. Have to get more delivered to create meandering dry creek beds through the mulch beds, and into the forest, but the places I needed covered are covered.
I wish I was organized enough to have 8 tons of stones dropped at once, and just handle it. I think I need it to be in 3 dumps, which only adds 70.00 in delivery fees..... but worth not being so overwhelmed.
DD texted her first flight to Washington had her seated next to her ex bf, which wasn't weird, bc she's been going out of her way to make things more normal the last couple weeks. He can look at her, and converse now. Smile, even. That's good, bc he's part of her friend group, and didn't want him hanging alone, or with people he doesn't know.
I'm taking 500 Vit C twice a day. Drinking plenty of fluids. Chicken soup. Nyquil, of course, and Dayquil too.
Hope everyone else is flu and cold free.
Lighter
Hopalong:
For next time...here's something I learned while working at Prevention Mag books:
The MOMENT you first feel symptoms, take 2-3 capsules of echinacea (have it on hand!), and begin popping a dissolvable zinc lozenge every three hours.
Ime, doing this with dedication for three days either:
--kills the cold virus and it goes away (about 75% of the time), OR
--shortens the duration of a cold that slips through (some will) by several days
(If you do get a bad one, NETI POT is a huge help.)
I've been amazed by it, but it's been a consistent effect for years.
Hope you feel better fast, Lighter.
Hugs
Hops
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