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sKePTiKal:
ohhhhh MY. Someone slow down the life clock of experiences, please. I want a chance to savor a few things.

Feels like weeks since I've updated. And here it's only 3 days. No, I'm not really dizzy-i-fied, either. Feet are in the dirt. Head and heart might NOT be ALL the time... LOL... but I re-center pretty quickly.

Around the farm:

Septic, well permits are in to contractor, so he can apply for building permit for Holly Hut; the rest of the trees are cleared at the site. Contract & deposit are done also; so in a couple of weeks, we should hear about what the schedule will be. Contract & deposit are in to well driller, also. Fence starts to go up around pond/coop field next week. Former House guest has been working a couple days a month, helping out around here for some extra fundage - and that's working out really well for both of us. Gives him a break from his tiny spartan quarters and work routine.

I'm just waiting on hurricane to pass and see what's what, then I'm going to reserve a tiny cottage at the beach and hope to entice Buck to join me. Hol & Steve will probably hold down the fort here, this time. And that REALLY puts a big smile on my face. Not that they wouldn't be fun to have around too.

Most of my legal/financial stuff is complete or well in progress.

Worked out a money matters misunderstanding with Buck yesterday and the day before. The disparity in our circumstances currently makes it a touchy subject. But it's finally cleared up; no one's feelings were hurt; no egos were annihilated in the process. It went WELL. Our connection intuitively, helps. There is a higher level of trust between us at this point than I think I've ever seen, even after being married some time. That's just one of the amazing things.

Yesterday, last night, early this morning... I've kind of kept him occupied as Dorian sauntered into his vicinity. His prep work was all done and he even rescued a few kitties and a Harley from the water. So we let imaginations fly and play - what if scenarios - about things we have in common. And told stories to each other. Now we kinda wonder why we didn't run into each other 20 years ago; LOL. Lots of "please don't change" requests going back & forth.

And lots of relaxing going on.

I even dreamed about Hops' new house and all the different rooms, all done and decorated differently, and I was letting ALL her pooches (she added some) out to adorable different gardens from different parts of the house.

Twoapenny:
Oh Skep, this all sounds really amazing!  It's so lovely to read that things are skipping along in a nice way and that you and Buck are getting along so well.  And maybe a nice little beach holiday as well - how amazing would that be!  I'm looking forward to hearing more :) xx

lighter:
Well, you seem to be doing the ground work on this relationship, Amber.  You'll build something, and it's interesting that you're engaging in what if scenarios... to me. 

I don't understand why, at this stage in life, you guys aren't setting a tentative date for X, Y and Z to happen.  That's MY stuff coming up, and it's not necessarily the way anything in any relationship should go. Just relating a little niggling feeling in the back of my brain that pops up.  How it feels to read that, when I know know know there are multitudes of possibilities, and savoring, exploring, and considering is part of the journey.   I think it's great that you're doing that, now that I have a moment to think about it.  I think it's wise, and pragmatic, and spot on, yup yup yup.

Lighter

Hopalong:
Aww, Amber, I'm very touched that you were subconsciously working on my dream as well! Huge hug for that, girl.

And you sound GREAT. I'm glad things feel good. As to timing, in our 8th month, I'm still seeing that his urgency/rush/get 'er done belongs to him, not me. More over on Relationship about that.

What big steps on the mountain, too! Just extraordinary. I'm glad you two may get away to some non-worksite, non-project space together soon. That sounds like EXACTLY the ticket.

Hugs
Hops

sKePTiKal:
Hugs back Hops... and all.

Lighter - life obligations mean we can't yet start setting that timetable. We do talk about what MIGHT go on it, however. And it's fabulous (to me at least) that he has his own ideas about those kinds of what-ifs. I've done enough of my share of the heavy lifting in relationships; time for some share & share alike, while I do keep working on my boundaries.

We both have reasons from the past, why it seems wise to postpone making an actual decision for a year. Those reasons are all over the map, too. That was his boundary, this time. And it mostly has to do with his D. So I can learn to manage my impatience during this time, huh? I should be able to understand and accept and work with that parameter... given what I do feel. And right there, is my chance to savor things, actually.

We both have to have time to process that the chemistry between us is different than what we've experienced previously too. Despite some just general similarities; inherent in guys & gals. Which can trigger either one of us... if we're tired or overwhelmed in that moment. We have time to process; talk it out; and move on. It's also allowing a lot of emotional awareness to become fully conscious, too. And we can each look & ponder that and talk about that too. He's pretty good talking about what he feels, from where I sit (often in tongue-tied, non verbal agony - LOL).

Meanwhile, we're helping each other sort out normal life stuff, too.

Yeah, it's pretty spectacular.

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