OK..... Cowboy kept calling me for a ride..... texted he was trapped at his office and needed a ride home bc his credit cards were cut off. I was busy and not sure if he should go home.... the Cowgirl, son and DIL were at the son's home, talking in the driveway. I was walking with a friend in the street, bc she needed a flat surface to walk on. Normally, I'd be in the forest. Not today.
I didn't know if Cowgirl knew Cowboy was trying to get back home OR IF there was an Order keeping him away and the Cowgirl told me she was out till Monday.... gone to a safe place, and she wanted me to pick up Cowboy and bring him home.
I didn't ask her if she wanted that. I asked if he was allowed home. As much as I wanted to know his state of mind, read that as my need to know if he was making threats with guns OR NOT I didn't want to get into a car with him OR be at his house if he was locked out OR at the moment he discovered his wife and dog were gone, etc.
I did nothing till I was clear on the situation, then called the CB back and he began demanding to know where his family was, did I know then went on to be belligerant and rude.... he didn't need my help. FINE by me. He was home, obviously and upset everyone left him to his own devices.
That said, I noticed his son moved his truck off the street they share and onto another street. Since CB stole his wife's keys eariler in the week, emptied her car and said he was going to have her arrested for driving HIS car, I assume he began making similar threats about the truck his son is driving for work... used to be th CB's truck.
This monring's trouble was about CB stealing CG;s work laptop and hiding it so she couldn't find it. Even with the cops ordering CB to produce the laptop, he couldn't or wouldn't... not sure if he forgot bc of drinking or just didn't want to give it back. He hid it another time and one of his friends found it in a filing cabinet in the garage, bc CB forgot where he hid it.
Cowgirl said the stolen key stunt cost her $400, she wasn't pleased and told Cowboy he had to choose between alcohol and her. He chose alcohol and to continue behaving like a child trying to ruin her job and ability to work which is supporting them AS HE RUNS UP CREDIT CARDS HE PROMISES TO PAY THEN DOESN'T. This makes zero sense to me, but I believe her. I have compassion for everything CB lost, but the way he's dealing with it reminds me of similar experiences I've had.... mostly the contractor. Like a little boy, kicking rocks and eating bologna samiches.
CG planning to ask for a TRO on Monday. All the guns are still in the house and she's very worried about that situation too. She left the back door open, in case CB couldn't find his keys, bc he's been so drunk. Ugh. Just.... so bad. I see an arrest, mental health hold and detox in the Cowboy's very near future. Even when he manages to sound a bit reasonable, he's just posturing and scheming against the family plan to go to therapy together. He hates the idea... thinks they should figure it out on their own.
I saw a car at their home a couple hours ago... not sure what that was about. CG said she's seen UBER rides pop up on their account, so she knows he's using their debit card to catch rides...... he's not trapped, as he's claiming. I'm guessing he had someone bring him alcohol.
My immune system took a hit and my cough worsened by the end of the day. The pollen isn't helping either... feel it in my throat and sinuses. I'm going to sleep 10 hours.
I have an out of town guest and we walked the street, working on her regaining a normal gait since her car accident.... she's limping out of habit, not bc she needs to. That went well. She has to retrain her left foot to trust her injured foot will carry her weight again.
Right foot has almost zero feeling.... just a bit in her big toe. She's usingn a tens machine for pain.
My friend also insisted make sure our doors are locked and secured with braces before bed, bc "Cowboy is going to go straight for me, bc I'm staying in your befroom, Lighter!" Sort of funny, but not.
It sucks women have to worry about being harmed or killed if they refuse to placate men. Another man could bark "sraighten the F up and fly right" to the same guy and perhaps de escalate the situation. Cowboy not behaving like an arse in front of his male neighbors, just his wife and dwindling female outsiders who refuse to enable him.
I didn't think Cowboy should come home, btw. I thought MAYBE a blanket should be anonamously dropped at his office and he be left to himself for the weekend. The Cowgirl said he had" NO where else to go...... at least he'd be safe in the house "(full of guns) and I just don't see it that way. He made his bed (on the office sofa) and chose to go there this morning. If it was me, I would have locked the house up tight before leaving and hoped he didn't come home.... done NOTHING to lessen the discomfort and consequences he's reaping. Cowgirl didn;t know where to begin looking for the guns.... she just wanted out and away. Said she hopes her son and SIL can handle any trouble. Suggested I call the police if I hear gunshots.
Does that sound cold or lacking compassion? The kind cut is the stinkiest cut..... the longer he's enabled, the more time passes before he hits rock bottom and begins his ascent, if there's to be one.
Not my circus, not my Cowboy. He's home and we shall see.
Lighter
