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[sKePTiKal]

I'm playing around with a whole new mantra these days to deal with resistance... STOP STRUGGLING.

I was reminded recently, that sometimes the path of least resistance is the most powerful way through - based on the kung fu saying about how water reduces mountains faster than physical strength.

One thing that happens, to me, that I've noticed when I stop trying to assume an artificial discipline or enforced regimen... is that I stop fighting long enough and using all that focus and energy in the struggle... to make a SPACE for me to want something enough I instinctively just jump into it. That results in a momentary appreciation and satisfaction... which starts to build a positive feedback loop... if I continue the process.

We can't be what we're not. There's no way I'm going to have the body I had at 30. But if I work at it a little at a time, I can look pretty good for almost 63. Pretty good, is good enough for me. Because then my goals shift to stamina and strength and the inner emotional characteristics that make for the inner beauty that can exist at any age. Positive feedback loop.

[lighter]

Stop struggling. 

I like it, Amber.

I bet struggling burns up a ton of time and energy.  I'm going to pay more attention, talk to T about it today.

Lighter

[CB123]

Skep,

I feel like I'm learning something similar to what you are talking about in dealing with other people too. Especially adult kids. Learning to listen to the problem they express with something in their life, and just stepping back and leaving a space instead of trying to offer advice. I've noticed that they step into those spaces too.

It's been pretty remarkable.

CB

[sKePTiKal]

CB - it does work that way too.

I really think it's the over-responsibility reflex, in my case. Being bereft of parents who were functional and protective, (and sometimes destructive & threatening) I early on became the person in that role. So I over-step boundaries many times, when I don't really have to or even want to. Because of the imperative of keeping the peace, herding people to happiness, or just not being comfortable myself with other people's anger or pain.

But investing all the energy into trying to manage it, hoping it works magic, has very unpredictable results. And you know what they say about people who keep trying to do the same thing and expecting different results.... LOL.

So, for now, refusing to struggle that way... is working for me. And as for other people's opinions about whether I'm working the way they think they should... or on the tasks they think I should... pffffft. They're not the boss of me. And maybe I'm resisting following their orders, because I want to reinforce that point; which is perfectly reasonable.

[CB123]

Ha ha!
They're not the boss of me!!
I'm going to remember that one.

CB