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sKePTiKal:
CB, I have noticed the grief process!!

I am slowly accepting that however the world changes after the worst of this is past - what we used to call "normal life" isn't coming back. That's going to be more vivid, extreme and stressful for some people, more than others. Some people have no experience yet with grief; some resist it with everything they can come up with; some of us are really tired of it - LOL.

I'm already moving into - OK, so how should I, do I, can I adapt?? and what plans can be imagined now... and things gathered toward that end...

Still no word from Buck's D in the UK; not even from the embassy. He's now pinging other channels. The hospital he's been working with has 34 employees who've tested positive. His Thurs appt is for bloodwork - to check his infection. He's been told it will have to be a "virtual appt" - which he can't do online with his home setup; and his military status won't accept - and how do you draw and analyze blood online????????

LOL... and with all this going on that's wearing on the rest of us... B has to be the contrarian in the bunch. :shakes head: I've never seen him happier. Making jokes, supporting others, being sweet as chess pie to me... but that's why he was - correction, is - an NCO, I guess.

My backup plans have backup plans... but for now, I'm just kinda taking it easy on myself. I pushed pretty hard to finish up in my bathroom, in case we have any more refugees come along. (Frees up another bathroom). So, I have my "sanctuary" back... shared just with Freddy the tomcat right now and he's been my best buddy.

Twoapenny:
Skep, extreme long shot, but do you know which hospital Buck's D is in?  I have a couple of friends in the health service - it's unlikely, I know, but if one of them happens to know someone who works in that hospital they might be able to get some info for him, if he still hasn't he anything.  And yep, I can see that for someone with Buck's background this kind of situation would be more manageable for him than it is for a lot of others :) xx

Hopalong:
Amber, are you into refugees just coming along?
Will your explicit permission be required before any new entourage members are on your land?

The virus travels, that's the point of shelter in place, stay at home, do not travel advisories.

hugs
Hops

lighter:
Amber:

It seems like B's dd would reach out and check on him, if not update him on her own situation.  I can't think of any reason why she's silent that's not really bad.  I'm glad he's being cheerful.  I guess he's used to the medical system letting him down and failing, so it's just business as usual.

CB:

There's definitely a mourning process going on.   Not knowing how things will change forever makes it harder by miles, IME.  I feel unsteady and hope it passes.

Lighter

sKePTiKal:
Yes, Holly actually made me a list of who she was interested in offering shelter to. At the moment, it's just one GF that I know reasonably well. GF (M) was partner to Hol's boss who died in Oct. So M was working on the same production Hol was supposed to work on - production is of course, cancelled. THEN, M's landlord sold the house they were living in and M was going to move into/decamp to lost partner's place at the end of this month - M's not overly comfortable, still being in the early days of the grieving process still. M's only family - a sister - is in California. She was going to go spend some time there -

except now there's a stay at home; do not travel order in MD.

So I'm fine with M coming here for the time being. She's a master gardener, and we have lots to do on that front this year and this month. Then, the cameraderie we have as a small group is actually pretty solid. A lot of the petty stuff got purged out pretty quick. Anxiety is still an on-going, take turns issue. Since M lost her mom to cancer some years ago, then her partner - I adopted her pretty quick. ;) Boundaries of course need to closely maintained. But it's working and I think helping.

I'm pretty well stocked to deal with home care for most anything - including my usual allergies this time of year. So, I'm making an effort to try not to talk myself into feeling sick - just paying attention and trying to measure out how much I'm pushing myself. Trying not to do that too much too. It won't be long before I'll have Buck - and possibly the younger D here too until she can go to college.

Tupp - to answer your question - Buck is being seen at the hospital on an outpatient basis. It's MUSC and they have 34 staff now that have tested positive. THANKFULLY I think his metabolism is enough right now to keep the infection in check. And he's got his stress under control - even with the older D being incommunicado. And yeah, Lighter... I can't think of any good reasons for her not to call and say she's OK either.

Already asked him, if I need to be ready to let him go, while he goes off & tries to do some silly stupid guy-Dad rescue stuff. Comes with the territory, with this type. But oh MY.... has he been supersweet to me for no reason other than he can & has time right now.  :D

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