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Mindfulness and codependence thread
lighter:
I like Buck even more than I did, Amber.
His ability to remain level headed, even while he's worried deeply about his dd and struggling with ongoing medical issues and pain. Just... wow. He seems like a very special gem.
Lighter
sKePTiKal:
Lighter - one thing he's VERY good at, is jumping right into that amygdala space and "doing". He's even mastered control within it. And I've watched him in the moment - decide if he was going there or not - he doesn't have to and isn't hijacked into it.
It's pretty impressive.
But he still sees it as kind of a bad thing, despite the fact that behind all that is giant heart full of caring. I'm working on that with him, at a glacial pace. ;)
lighter:
Amber:
My brain goes a little weak when I read you're looking forward to Buck coming to the farm... that you feel he'd support you and your highest mental health BUT you aren't feeling up to the challenge of all the personalities interacting at the moment. This was on your thread.
I'm paraphrasing here, but... is it possible to have Buck to the farm soon, but you aren't doing that? I'm not saying it's a good idea. I just want to understand.
Lighter
Hopalong:
I see that concern too.
NOT about Buck coming, that's so overdue and wonderful!
I just don't get the immediate planning to invite virus refugees on a list from Hol. Who may be asymptomatic carriers, who may not connect well in the very delicate emotional ecosystem that has happened on your mountain including many meltdowns and a lot of pain for you.
Could it not JUST be Buck for a while, until you two have that time there together?
Does it HAVE to be command central, or compound central, for all these extra Hol-people?
If it makes you happy, then it's the right thing to do. I'm just concerned you may be "people project-ing" yourself right back into overload.
I keep thinking, whose mountain is this, anyway?
hugs
Hops
sKePTiKal:
OK -- clarifying first --
Hol does have a list; but she's not inviting the whole list. At the moment, John, who's been here supporting her & helping me, has been here since October. Not constantly, because he has done day trips, up until January or so. M, the GF, is just one more person - and worth it for her level-headedness, creativity, industriousness and tact. And she NEEDS this space and quiet too. It's a good fit.
I'll bop back to my thread for the rest. This is enough derailing over here! ;)
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