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Mindfulness and codependence thread
sKePTiKal:
Are you moving Lighter? Did I miss something?
lighter:
Nope, Amber. Trying to clean and paint bath and bedrooms at father's lake house before Christmas. Picked up 2 sofas, 2 loveseat and 2 chairs.....beautiful leather and wood....used....worth the 5 hour drive in rented truck. Dibs and I will talk about the property's future....maybe convert into a 8 bedroom, 8 bath, 2 half bath hotel/ event space with chapel and reception hall....petting zoo! We all agree on the petting zoo with tiny goats and bunnies; ) Maybe put in dry dock storage and a community dock and small marina on the lake.....large fire pit with seating.
The area doesn't have large properties allowing parties and noise past a certain hour. Most in communities with rules.
I'll be trucking basement cabinets there Wednesday from the local Habitat for humanity store. 2 hour drive in a 26' truck.
Loading carefully is a concern, of course. I hired 2 movers to help. Beautiful solid cherry with warped old world glass....bubbles and all. Looks great and distinguished. Tomorrow I label them, and finalize design plan. Have to order appliances. I'd be excited if I weren't so sleepy. Really missing my girls. Nice to cook and dance with them tonight.
Hands have a few pesky cuts and burns....takes a bit of fun out of being in the kitchen, ime.
Nite.
Lighter
Considering turning it into a hotel property with reception gall, chapel and...
best of all...
A Petting zoo! That's the one thing all siblings have a clear vision on...tiny goats, rabbits and maybe donkeys.
Lighter
Twoapenny:
God that sounds amazing, Lighter - especially the pets! You have been working hard, as always. It will be nice if all of that is done before Christmas. The furniture sounds lovely as well xx
Hopalong:
Lighter,
I'm staggered by your appetite for complex, challenging real estate projects. But sure you can do these and enjoy it a great deal all the while. When one can, thinking big must really be fun.
I think the fears and anxieties and complexities you have expressed over your island B&B left me my surprised by this latest venture.
But it's at least only two hours away! No boats or airplanes required. Hope it goes well and is overall joyful and satisfying for you, despite the inevitable detours and glitches.
Do I understand right that you inherited this property from your stepfather?
hugs
Hops
lighter:
Hops:
My father's farm/ lake property...not sf.
I have 2 sibs with big ideas for the place....bigger than me. I was thinking more event Center with 4 bedrooms for a bride and besties. Sister thinking airbnb with top floor separated from bottom floor with ability to open up.
My brother surprised me with hotel/ marina/ chapel/pool reception hall separate from house, which looks like a lodge.
The place needs to produce income or be sold. That's a fact.
I'm not sure what form that takes, but we'll be discussing it over Christmas.
We packed, trucked and unloaded a 26' truck yesterday.....included 2 hours driving each way. Movers returned truck and I stayed at the lake.
I'm headed to Home Depot for floor stripper, sheetrock mud and paint. Carpet cleaner might show. If I strip wax off brick pavers, his machine can steam them into like new condition.
I'm starving so will get a bite in town.
I realize....I have energy and the will to do this work. It's bringing us closer....esp little brother. Lots of processing taking place. Getting to know each other...moving past old ideas of who we were to each other.
I'm feeling solid IN my body...at home. Calm. Safe. Reactivity happens but it's easier to see and deal with.
I'm happy. Kids are grown and smart and funny and emotionally intelligent. I have zero regrets about raising them up as my priority.....would change very little. Did my very best. I forgive myself for the bobbles.
Youngest DD graduates this year. I'm stepping into a new chapter...and it feels very mindful....very right.
Most walking is falling forward. I don't feel that way. This is kissing the earth, mindfully stepping meditation.
And I've been stretching and feeling happy in self care. It's being present in the moment....I think. A shift I'm sometimes aware of....but it's feeling more natural.
I had guest scheduled into the island cottage, but they cancelled.....Covid timing seems to have shut that Airbnb plan down tight. Will put it on the market and enjoy it as much as we can. Maybe put a seawall in with my own hands....that would feel right, if I can figure it out. I can hire trusted and very strong helpers. Will see. I feel like so many possibilities will open up....and I'll know what to choose.
Trusting myself....my instincts is where I live now. I'm home: )
Miss you guys. Will be back more often when the lake house and my home is in order. I'm editing and simplifying. It fwels like the river spirit scene from the movie Spirited Away. All the junk and trapped stuff flowing out.
Lighter
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