Author Topic: hagiography and voicelessness  (Read 967 times)

Hopalong

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hagiography and voicelessness
« on: January 28, 2020, 02:04:56 PM »
A well-regarded journalist at the Washington Post, who happens to also be a sexual assault survivor, was just suspended by the editors for tweeting out a well-reported story (that she did not write) about Kobe Bryant's rape accusation and civil settlement in Colorado several years ago. Their objection was that her tweet "made it more difficult for her colleagues to do their work."

Meanwhile, the Washington Post Reporters Guild came out to support her with hundreds of reporters' signatures, and readers' comments on the news (which to give WaPo some credit, they allowed two other reporters to criticize) are nearly-uniformly castigating the editors' decision.

Meanwhile, the reporter got thousands of abusive messages, including death threats, for reminding people that in addition to being a magical basketball player and father, Bryant was also a rapist. She had to go stay in a hotel for her own safety and the editors didn't offer her any support or protection. She was punished for telling the truth, offering some balance to the insane celebrity-athlete worship.

This culture venerates male power to an insane degree. You CAN acknowledge Bryant's good works and  legendary skills at playing a ball game, and ALSO acknowledge the truth of his full persona, which included male privilege, male power, and the silencing of women, who matter less.

This culture promotes and protects male/celebrity/athletic/economic power over women over and over again.
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Re: hagiography and voicelessness
« Reply #1 on: January 29, 2020, 04:37:38 AM »
It's very sad, Hops.  The same thing happens here.  Any woman accusing a footballer of rape is vilified, we've just recently had the Prince Andrew/Epstein 'thing' which has been quietly and calmly swept under the carpet, whilst the decision of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle to  move to Canada to raise their son away from that kind of toxicity has been howled about from the roof tops with, of course, Meghan being blamed for it.  The ease with which people can abuse and issue death threats via the internet is terrifying.  At least in the old days you had to bother to get off your arse and at least go out to post a letter.  It makes me sad for the state of the world, but also makes me more determined to keep my son away from that kind of toxicity and to keep hammering home consent, respect, humility and compassion. 

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Re: hagiography and voicelessness
« Reply #2 on: May 15, 2020, 05:18:04 PM »
Wasn't sure what thread to plop this one on, but I was taken by an amazing quote from The Darrell Hammond story, a documentary of child abuse on Netflix. (About a Saturday Night Live comedian known for his amazing impressions of famous figures.)

He was terribly (sadistically) abused by a broken mother (and less so, father). So here's the link but do not watch it if it'd be triggering to hear such a story. It's moving and riveting to me, but I'm not a serious abuse survivor.

https://www.netflix.com/watch/81162153?trackId=253628477&tctx=3%2C1%2C7dfbb8ce-4c2f-4888-b3c8-e8471a031d77-7462997%2Cf3f42fdb-a838-4895-b7e9-ee73b207ddc0_7164446X94XX1589570590550%2Cf3f42fdb-a838-4895-b7e9-ee73b207ddc0_ROOT

But the QUOTE, from one of the psychiatrists who helped heal him, was:

Trauma is always about the victim making amends for the perpetrator.

That blew me away.

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Re: hagiography and voicelessness
« Reply #3 on: May 19, 2020, 01:28:56 PM »
PS -- The correct title for the documentary is Cracked Up.
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