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Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: bean2 on May 02, 2020, 12:16:26 PM ---Hops,
I sure hope so! It's funny, when I read your handle "hops" I think hops, used to make beer. Then I read my handle "bean" and here we are talking about gardening! :)
I do think when you come from an abusive Family of Origin - in my case I had narcissitic parents - finding ways to relax and nurture things is important. Gardening just seems like the perfect escape. My husband is currently working on a backyard, he has planted 4 different types of grass...
My husband had an extremely abusive father, I did not know him he died before I met my husband but I hear the stories my husband and his siblings tell me and it's horrifying. In comparison, I feel like my parents were pretty OK!
Hubby has been talking about this vegetable garden non-stop since the coronavirus hit. I know we won't have to grow our own food to survive - I know this logically - but spiritually and emotionally it seems like a good thing to do at this time of high anxiety. Agree with everyone else who posted similarily.
bean
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I think lots of people are appreciating their gardens if they have them right now, Bean, even if just to sit in them. I feel very fortunate to have my little space.
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: CB123 on May 06, 2020, 02:00:19 PM ---I'm the same way Tupp. I feel amazingly un-anxious. Everything seems manageable.
CB
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It's funny, isn't it, CB? I think perhaps we've just been over-reaching and over-doing for so long that the sudden stop that came along has kind of re-set something. I definitely would never have taken this much time off and stayed inside so much if I hadn't been made to. It's an odd situation.
Hopalong:
I love the peace you guys are experiencing and amplifying.
Bravoooooooooooos,
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: CB123 on May 08, 2020, 11:24:44 AM ---Tupp,
Some days I dont get a thing "done". Other days, (like yesterday) I turn the house upside down and forget to eat lunch. How the anxiety works (or lack of it) is: it doesnt matter either way. If I spend a day reading, then I do. One day I binge watched a series on Amazon(and I never do that, dont even want to most of the time). I really enjoyed it--and the next day I spent in the kitchen cooking.
I guess the common emotion when I was working was: should. If I didnt shop, clean, do laundry on my days off, I wouldnt have what I needed on my work days since they wore me out. And then there was the projects I wanted to do. If I actually took a day and did one, I felt like I should have done those other things. If I didnt, I felt as though I was on a hamster wheel of work/clean/laundry. I didnt cook. If I got home at 7, cooking meant I was cleaning the kitchen after dinner at 9.
I rarely talked to my kids, and certainly didnt visit much, because I was talked out after work (as were they). I still don't see them because of the virus (I won't be seeing the ones who are nurses for the foreseeable future), but we have set up a family message board and talk a lot more. We could have done that all along, but I think the restrictions have forced us to become more creative, and the concern for each other makes us aware of how quickly life can change.
So today I am sitting with a second cup of coffee and relaxing a bit after turning my room upside down yesterday. We are going to have a stormy day today, but I had a cardinal couple come and check out my bird bath for the first time and the baby bunny that lives in the bushes came out and danced around the grass (until daddy cardinal stopped that nonsense.)
CB
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100% the same, CB, having those repeated pockets of time to do or not do things and respond to my own needs - huge change for me and one that I still can't quite grasp and am so grateful for at the minute. But yes, that constant pressure and constant level of exhaustion has gone and the luxury of being able to think, "I'll do that tomorrow" or "I won't do that at all" is a huge change. Hamster wheel is a good way to describe it, that's just what it felt like, and to have your own dancing bunny - wow! that is so cute, it's so nice to be able to watch something like that for as long as you like, not just for five minutes before you dash out the door again :) Wow. That is so lovely :) xx
Twoapenny:
And I just paid my credit card off :) Any extra money now can go into savings :) Woo hoo! xx
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