Back int he saddle

[seastorm]

Its been ages since I visited here. Now we are all in this quarantine and I have lots of time to think, meditate and connect again. I realize that I am cursed with wanting to give advise and I hardly know how to talk to anyone with doing that. I really don't like advice from people, it is crummy conversation. The sharing that comes from here is often such a warm and gentle lifeline and I hope people feel safe. Well, wobble, wobble, squeek,,, stumbling toward connection.

Lora of love

Seastorm

[CB123]

Awww, seastorm.
So good to hear from you.
What a smile it gave me.

CB

[Twoapenny]

Hi Sea, nice to see you   Yes, I've struggled with the advice thing over the years, both giving and receiving!  I tend to only do it now if asked or if I'm with a friend who I know is telling me something because they want to know what I think (the way you do with people you know well).  Hops has a good phrase; "I hope that works out for you" - it's a handy way to acknowledge someone's situation without getting in to the mire xx

[Hopalong]

Sea, fwiw, any time you ever advised me it was always staggeringly lovely and you most often offered meaning and perspective, rather than "things to do/not do."

I am an inveterate advice giver! It's very hard to refrain sometimes. The only way I get around that is (hopefully most of the time) to remind myself/others that I know I might be wrong and that I hope people would take what's useful and ignore the rest.

I do think I overdo it sometimes. I really do. I should think about this.

But I agree with you about the warmth and gentleness here. It's amazing.

hugs
Hops

[seastorm]

I am home alone and part of me enjoys the solitude and the chance to stop worrying about justifying my existence.  I noticed my post  looked like it was written by a drunk person. I don't drink so will try to  hold it more together. After reading and watching about this virus, I am more afraid of Trump and his fascist friends using the virus as an opportunity to destroy democracy. Oh sorry for the negativity. So I just float along on my slippery log down the river and pretend  its all set to music.
Thank you for your kind welcome.
People where I live are being so calm and following the guidelines and staying home, trying to help anyone who needs help and I am grateful I live in Canada.
Someone left eight valentines all different sizes in my mail box. It was such a surprise and such a mystery. A week later, on the same day my little pet bunny escaped, I noticed the same valentines  stuck on the windows of my neighbour beside me and the one across the street.  My daughter told me it is to thank first responders.  Someone left a bouquet of tulips tucked in my front arbor. When the rabbit escaped  I heard a knock on my front door and the lady next door wondered if I had lost a rabbit and she was carrying a plastic laundry basket. She showed me how to hunt with a laundry basket by throwing it over the very smart bunny, Poppy's head. The bunny had this figured out and would jump as soon as necessary. Anyway, the young woman two doors down came to chase the rabbit and in all there were six people trying to run down the rabbit and everyone was so excited and laughing. Several people came out to watch and clap. Very funny and a great community bonding experience. Now i know there is a nineteen year old woman from Turkey who is stuck here and can't go home. I met people and we go out and bang pots etc at 7 pm.  So there is love out there just waiting to be awoken . When I get over the shock  of all this maybe I'll go out at 7 and bang pots. I have been a real snob about my neighbours but that is softening now. When I think of spending the next year with my neighbours in quarantine I realize they are a pretty good bunch of people.
I've been watching Ozarks on Netflix and it is dark and brilliant but not exactly brain candy.
Lots of love to you guys 
Bye for now

[bean2]

Seastorm,


ahhhh
Really loved the idea of a bunny hunt

I would really like some advice, and will not be hurt if it doesn't resonate.  And if it does I will just be extremely grateful someone understands my N situation. 

Sometimes the battle is just finding others who have had a similiar experience.  I felt like such an ugly duckling as a child, not knowing WHY my BPD mother was not like any other mothers out there.  When I came here, I realized I am a SWAN.  People can get me.

bean

[Twoapenny]

It's nice that you're getting to know your neighbours better, Sea, and that people are making nice gestures, that sounds like such a good thing x